She’s having an affair. What do you do?
She’s always staying late at work. She can’t be home on the weekends. She’s around in the morning, but every afternoon and every night she has somewhere else to be. Finally, you discover why. You walk in on your woman with another man. What do you do when you find out that your girlfriend or your wife is having an affair?
Sadly, this happens more often than we’d like to admit. Determining what to do can be scary and definitely isn’t easy. You need to begin by assessing how you feel about your lady. Do you love her? If you haven’t fallen in love yet – get out. Don’t throw yourself deeper into something that she isn’t committed to. You have a chance to save yourself, so do it. Save yourself.
If you have fallen in love, things are more complicated. If you’re married, the complications only increase. If you have kids, you guessed it, the complications increase once again. Much of your decision should depend upon the way that she feels. Some woman are not remorseful. They wanted to cheat, they did, and they would do it again. Furthermore, they may be planning to leave you. Other woman claim that they “made a mistake” and they don’t want to lose you. If she wants to stick around and you want to stick around, then work together to make it a reality. Head to couples therapy and work to identify your issues, bring them out into the open, work through them, process them, and find positive, healthy solutions that make both of you happy. Restoring your marriage isn’t a dream. It’s a reality – if both of you are committed to making it work.