Attraction

So you’ve made eye contact with that attractive man from across the room, but how do you make him want you? Though you may say that you will never be desirable to men, you are just letting your insecurities speak for you. Any woman can appear desirable – no matter her hair color, height, figure, skin tone, or facial structure. Instead, it relies on your body language, personality and attitude! By following these helpful tips, you will have him wanting you in no time!

The first step is to ooze confidence, because he will be able to pick up on it from a distance. Ignore your insecurities and focus on all of your great attributes. Doing this will make you feel good about yourself and will ultimately put you in a better mood. If you are happy with yourself and your life, people will be able to sense it because your body language will appear open and approachable.

Being approachable is essential for making him want you. If you stand in a corner with your arms crossed, you look uncomfortable and unhappy – therefore, you are unapproachable. No matter how beautiful you are, he will be intimidated by you for fear of you giving him the cold shoulder. He still may want you, but you will never know because he will not come up to you and strike up a conversation. By using proper body language, he will see that you are open for conversation and will approach you.

When he does decide to come over to talk to you, make sure to be interesting. Contribute to the conversation and be fun to talk to. If you are boring, he will not want you. Do not be afraid to flirt; in fact, flirting is essential in this situation. Make him feel good about himself and he will want to be in your company at all times.

So you’re looking to turn your boyfriend on. This is a common concern that many women have. They know that their man likes them, but what’s the best way to turn up the heat.

#1. Sneak up behind him.

He’ll love it if you come up from behind and grab his member just like he does. Then whisper naughty secrets in his ear and he’ll be yours forever.

#2. Get on top of him.

Whenever you look through the magazines, you always find this suggestion at the top. Take the lead in your sex lives and begin the foreplay by straddling him. Guys love it and if you’re looking to turn him on…this is one way to do it.

#3. Talk Dirty

There isn’t a guy I know who doesn’t love it when women talk dirty. Every man loves this kind of sensual talk. Give it to him and watch as he can’t stay away from you.

With these three tips, you’ll be on your way to turning your boyfriend on. If all else fails, get naked. A guy can never resist a naked girl. Once he sees your assets, he’ll want to play. After all, he is YOUR boyfriend, and he definitely likes you.

Does he like me? -> Girls ask this question, all over the world, in hushed whispers to their girlfriends. Why do we feel the need to know if a guy likes us? It’s simple. We want to know if he’s going to ask us out.

The problem with today’s world is that so many guys are afraid to ask women out. They fear rejection and so they try to figure out if the girl likes them. Or worse, they don’t ask. The only way that I’ve found to remedy this situation is to let a guy know that you are interested in them. Don’t make it too obvious, don’t ask the guy out, or make yourself an easy date. Just flirt enough to let them know that you might be interested. It can help that shy guy overcome his nerves and ask you out.

Remember middle school? All of the, “I heard from Tony who heard from Lisa who heard from Michelle that Aaron likes you.” You’d think that this would fade away as we grow older, but it just isn’t so. That guy is most likely just as nervous as he’s ever been. So if you find yourself interested in a guy, don’t latch on to him or encourage yourself to fantasize over dating him. Just acknowledge that you are interested. He’s a “maybe” and be sure that he knows he is.

I get a lot of questions about men who are, “drawn to another girl.” By that, I mean a girl who isn’t the one they are currently having a relationship with. These men contact me and ask me for advice about whether or not they should pursue this girl or stay in their current relationship. It’s quite the dilemma. What to do?

First, it’s important to note that you will always be attracted to other woman. She’ll be attracted to other men. And that’s okay. It isn’t okay to have strong romantic feelings for another person.

When they say that they are drawn to another girl, I always ask the “why” question. WHY?

Is it because you think she’s attractive and that’s it – or do you feel like you might want a relationship with her? If you consider leaving your current girlfriend, then you need to consider how much that relationship means to you. For this other girl, you’re thinking of leaving. That says more about your current relationship than it does about how you feel for this random girl.

Say she isn’t random? Say you’ve known her for a while and you’re falling more and more for her. Then it’s a bit different. You may feel that she could be “the one” even. If you feel that you are compatible and you feel strongly about her, then maybe you should go for it. If she’s all that you can think about, then regardless of whether or not you go for this girl, you need to let your current girlfriend go. It isn’t fair or just to stay in a relationship with someone that you are not fully committed to. If it’s an official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, then there needs to be commitment. If you can only think of another, you won’t be committed.

Think of your current relationship and it’s value to you. Think of this other girl and her value to you. Think of your future. Think of the present moment. No matter your decision – make sure that you’ve thought it through carefully.

In “500 Days of Summer,” we see a man meet a woman. And he falls. Madly in love.

You may not have had this exact experience in your life, but I’m guessing that everyone has experienced nerves with certain women. They just steal your heart. You’d love to ask them out, but you start to panic. You can barely say anything. You’re in awe. A bit dumbfounded.

How do you avoid that?

The first thing to remember is that she isn’t any more special than you are. She’s a person. So are you. It’s great to be chivalrous and behave like a gentlemen. However, you don’t need to treat her like a queen. It only makes her think that you must think she’s out of your league. No need for that.

Next, try not to worry. Don’t focus on all of the things that you should be doing: smiling, having confidence, charming, saying just the right thing, etc. Let all of that go. Don’t force expectations upon yourself. Just be yourself! In the end, you want to be with a girl who likes you for who you are. So show her who you are. I’ve often noticed that I strike up the best rapport with girls I’m not interested in, just because I’m not so nervous. I always think – if only I could do this with someone I wanted to date. I can and you can. Just let it happen naturally.

Breathe. This is an obvious one and may seem kind of silly, but it’s a big help. If you just relax and take deep breaths, your body will actually send calming signals to your brain. This will help you stay clear and keep your nerves from becoming overwhelming.

Lastly, focus on her. Ask her questions about herself and be genuinely interested. Then you won’t have as much time to concentrate on your nerves. Instead, you’ll be concentrating on her!

When he’s in your dreams, it can become a problem in terms of your productivity. Sure, it’s nice to be in that “honeymoon stage” and enjoy the “puppy love,” but it can cause problems at the office or at school.

The best way to keep those thoughts at bay, are to focus on three rules:

#1. I can dream about him at specific times.

Don’t try to shut him out of your mind completely. He won’t go! Whenever you try not to think about something, it only makes it worse. Acknowledge that you’re thinking about this guy, and then let it go. Set up specific times throughout the day where you allow yourself to have twenty minutes to think about him.

#2. Spend time with him

Don’t let all of your time be spent fantasizing about this guy. If he’s so great, go be with him!

#3. Keep the dreamy attitude to yourself.

It’s okay to let him know that you’ve been thinking about him. It’s great to let him know that you care about him. However, many girls go WAY overboard. Guys hate it when girls spend the first and last twenty minutes of every date talking about their mushy, sappy, love crush. I’m assuming that you haven’t been in the relationship for a long time, and puppy love may turn into true love, but it isn’t yet. So take this kind of talk and shove it. Focus on getting to know each other better, enjoying spending time together, and showing him that you care rather than telling him.

If you follow these three rules, you’ll be more productive at work or at school. You’ll also feel better about the time you do spend together.

You want to be the guy that rides off into the sunset with the girl.  You want to be the guy that gets the date.  This is how to be that guy that every girl wants.

Magnetic.  Attractive.  On point.  These are words that describe that guy that every girl wants.  You want to be that guy.  You want to win and get the girl that will complete your life.  In fact, you want the girl that will add to an already complete life.  You see, girls want winners.

A man is supposed to be in control of his own destiny and life.  Men work hard and then come home and play hard.  The woman is supposed to bring life into that scenario, and she wants to find the right man to do that.  You can be that man, but you have to get your mind in gear.  It’s an inner game.

If you’ve ever tried to pick a woman, you’ve encountered that feeling of failure when she says, “No, thanks.” How do you change that into a “Sure” or “I’d love to?” It may not sound possible, but it is. It all depends on the way in which you approach women, but also in the way you present yourself.

How do I approach her?

When approaching a woman, keep it simple. The goofy pick-up lines rarely work and the over-the-top mushy love messages don’t work either. Be simple. Tell her you love her smile or the way that her eyes sparkle. Then ask if you could take her out on a date. If she says no, don’t worry. Move on. However, don’t be that guy that walks around the club asking every girl in sight. You won’t get her that way.

How to be that guy that every girl wants. Does that sound nice? Believe it or not, it’s possible.

Show her that you like yourself. Be confident. Have personality. Take care of your body. In a nutshell, these are the qualities that girls want to see. If you present yourself as someone who has these things, she’ll be interested in dating you immediately.

A girl is looking for someone to share life with.  That is a woman’s main concern.  She is not interested in someone that is not at their core not interested in living life.  If you are overweight, depressed, and have low self esteem, then she cannot see herself having a positive life experience with you.  The only thing that can come of it is a dependent relationship.

How can a guy who isn’t all that get the girl?

Many times, men who aren’t the most attractive or who do not have the best bodies, are able to win over the most beautiful girl because they exemplify these traits. They like themselves enough to be confident, but they aren’t arrogant. They remain normal, down-to-earth and approachable. They have a personality, whether they are funny or serious, quiet or outspoken. These men know who they are and they share that with the world. That’s what makes them interesting and that’s how to be that guy that every girl wants.

You can be you. Just be the best version of you. As Emerson once said, “Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.”

Most men take a laid-back approach to dating and then they wonder why women never want them. It’s simple: If you want her, make her want you. Women will fawn over you if you know what to do and how to behave. Let her get to know you and let that be enough for her to fall head over heels.

Confidence. You don’t need to be the bad boy, the gentleman or the fitness fanatic. You just need to be confident in who you are and what you have to offer as a partner.

Personality. You don’t need to be extroverted, introverted, shy, quiet, loud, outspoken, funny, serious or intelligent. You just need to be YOU. Sharing your personality and having opinions make you someone worth getting to know. Nothing is more annoying or frustrating than the guy who is flat. He isn’t seen as balanced. He’s seen as boring.

Dress to Impress. No designer brands necessary, but try to dress for your body type. Choose outfits that look good on you. It’s okay if you want to dress casual, I’m not saying you have to wear Armani suits. I’m merely saying that it’s best if you wear things that showcase your assets and hide your flaws.

Health. It’s true, this is one area that most people want to gloss over, but it’s important. Take care of your health. Those teeth and gums, brush them. That hair, style it. Your body, make it the best that it can be. Take an active role in your fitness and your health. You don’t need to be perfect or a Ryan Gosling, but you should be taking care of your body.

If you follow these simple steps, you’ll be someone that women find interesting and attractive. You’ll be someone that they want. It’s always easier to approach women when you know that they are more likely to be interested in dating you. Following this advice will help you land that coveted ideal.

Your partner feels distant…how do you get that connection back?  Well, the answer is chemistry!

Here’s a letter I received from a long time reader:

Dear Ryan,

I’ve lost all chemistry with my boyfriend!  It seems like we are not in sync like we were when our relationship first started.  I cannot get in touch with his feelings anymore.  Life is so robotic.  It’s cold, and I can’t take it anymore!  It’s like we’re in the same room, but he’s so far away.  This loneliness is getting to me.  What should I do Ryan?  I need help right away!

Sometimes we find ourselves in a relationship that isn’t working but there doesn’t seem to be any reason why. Perhaps you’re together a fair amount, you talk, and to anyone else you both look happy. What happens when one of you is happy, but the other isn’t?

It isn’t always obvious why some relationships fall apart on one side only. Your date is still enthralled with you, but you’ve lost interest.

Connection.  Chemistry.  

The chemistry in our relationships is the glue that binds us.  We need it.  It’s relationship oxygen.  We all are searching for a connection with others and you must have this with your boyfriend or girlfriend. If you’re going to be happy, you need to have a strong, deep, and fulfilling connection with them.

Everyone gets lonely at various points in their lives, but you shouldn’t feel lonely all of the time. When he or she is with you, you shouldn’t feel as though no one is present. If you feel this way, you need to determine why you do and make a decision about the future of your relationship.

Don’t question things too deeply!

Is it because you’ve had a rough day or something went wrong at work? Or is it because of a lack of connection with one another?

Lasting relationships have a strong, deep, and fulfilling connection at their core. If this is something that you are lacking, then you need to consider terminating your relationship with your partner. If you are thinking long-term, then you need someone who understands you and can be privy to your world. Don’t shut him or her out, but if they don’t understand then find someone else who does. Don’t spend all of your days in the same room, but so far away.

Long lasting relationships take a lot of work. Often, you’ll see the passion fade over time. But what if there was a way to get back those initial sensual feelings and keep them for good? Watch my FREE video presentation to see how…CLICK HERE to check out the video while you still can…

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Question: I want to win back my wife. We’ve been really distant lately and I want her to know that she’s still the person I want to be with. I just worry that she won’t listen. I worry that I’ve lost her. I’m pretty stubborn and I don’t know what to say, I have a hard time saying anything. What should I do?

Answer: When you are looking at finding ways to “win back my wife,” I want you to consider what you haven’t been doing.

Have you been complimenting her? I don’t mean fake compliments. I mean real, honest, genuine compliments. Find something compelling to say and say it. It will make her feel good and remind her that you’re still there. You still find her attractive and you still love all of her idiosyncrasies as well as her personality.

Another thing that I would ask you to look at, is the time you spend together. This is crucial. You may need to spend more time with her. Maybe you’re always off doing your own thing or you’re involved in a lot of outside activities. Find a way to make her feel special. Find a way to make her feel loved.

However, you may be spending too much time with her. Have you given her space to breathe? To pursue her own interests? It’s important that you allow her to do her own thing as well. It’s good for couples to have some activities that they do on their own. It’s healthy for you to spend time apart as well as together. Don’t suffocate her or she will be less likely to stay.

Regardless of what choices you need to make and what behaviors you need to alter, it’s important that you do so with her in mind. Listen to what she’s asking for and give it to her.