Boring Relationships

When people write to me about a sexless loveless marriage, they usually feel hurt and confused. Many are hopeless. They don’t believe that they can change their situation. Thankfully, you can. You just have to be willing to try.

Don’t despair!  There is a way out, and I’ve helped couples rekindle the passion in their marriage and look at life with brand new eyes.

With a sexless loveless marriage, you may need to do things that you wouldn’t have ever considered before.

First off, you need to evaluate why it is you are not having sex.  Is your sex drive low, or is it your partner’s?  This is a key question.  Do you feel like your spouse is holding sex over you?  Do you start having the wandering eye and feel bad about it?  Here are some things to think about when solving the problem of a sexless, loveless marriage.

Evaluate Your Schedule.

So many times it is the schedule of your lives that it causing the problems. Work, school, children’s activities, it’s all too much. All of these obligations can keep married partners so busy that they are either too tired or too stressed to find time for sex.

Consider finding a new hobby that the two of you can do together or revisit an old hobby. one couple that i know decided to take up rock-climbing. It was physical and adventurous, and they would go rock climbing in romantic locales.  Doing something physical also builds attraction.

With rock climbing, you must work as a team. One person stands below while the other one climbs up, and then you switch. Maybe the rock wall could represent the sexless loveless marriage. You can accomplish something together as a couple.

So many times couples are unwilling to give this situation the time it deserves. It takes time, that’s just being realistic.  You must be realistic.

Couple’s activities are good, and so is cuddling time!  You have to remember how to be physically intimate with one another.  Spend some time cuddling and talking with one another.  Trust is easy to lose, but hard to rebuild.

So remember: Be supportive of your spouse, and take all the time you need to rebuild your relationship.  Work out your schedule, and try to rebuild the physical intimacy you’ve lost.

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Living a sexless existence is not healthy.  It can wear on you after awhile.  Sexless relationships don’t have the spark of healthy ones, so here’s some tips on what you can do to put the spark back into your existence.  Sexless Relationship ?

The death of sex in a relationship is catastrophic, but it’s happening to millions of Americans nation wide.  6 out of 10 Americans surveyed said they were not having as much sex as they would like, and the number rises to almost 7 out of 10 married Americans!  It’s practically an epidemic, and it’s really putting a huge strain on so many marriages.  How do you bring back the spark into a sexless relationship?

First thing’s first, improve your sex appeal.  You cannot be a dud.  You’ve got to wow your partner and really up your game when it comes to sexual appeal.  This means getting out of the house and going to the gym, and possibly looking at what’s going on with your wardrobe.  You’re not going to make your partner want you with a big belly or flabby arms?  When I wanted to bring the spark back in my relationship, I went straight to the gym.

Now for the mental game.  You have to seduce your partner.  You see, love making is supposed to be a chase.  It’s not just in the act itself, it’s also about building sexual tension between you and your partner, so that you practically rip each other’s clothes off when it comes time to make love.  You can do this by changing the way you handle your relationship.  You have to learn some seduction technqiues.

The first thing you do is to not be too easy.  Never be desperate, and always exude confidence.  This works for men and women.  Men and women show themselves to be confident differently though.  Men must be slightly cocky and a bit arrogant, and women need to look seductive, as if they know all of the secrets of the Kama Sutra.

The next big step to building sexual tensions is to tease your partner.   You have to play hard to get.  You entice them, then you step back.  For men, it might mean teasing the woman a bit and make her feel self conscious, then backing off.  Always act as if you have your life together, as if you’re always on to the next big thing.  It will make her feel like she wants to be a part of your world.

That’s really what attraction is all about.  It’s about making the other person want to be a part of your world.  If you’re irresistible, confident, and look the part, you’ll find that sex naturally fits back into your relationship.  This may take months of effort, but when you hit the sheets, it’ll all be worth it.

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In reality, surviving a sexless marriage is impossible.  The best thing you can do really is to try and fix it.  Do not suffer through it.

Instead of merely surviving a sexless marriage, I want to encourage you to do more.  You can’t survive a relationship that exists with no intimacy.  You must either move on, or repair your relationship so that you can bring the fire back in your life.

Surviving a sexless marriage is not enough.

I want you to fix it because miracles do occur, and you never know. it could be your relationship that gets the miracle. Surviving a sexless marriage is not only possible it’s expected if you follow all of the available advice.

The problem CAN be fixed

It’s not enough to try and just survive in a sexless marriage. Surviving a sexless marriage is the minimum goal. Let’s go beyond that and find a happy, balanced marriage.

Don’t allow your sexual frustrations to bubble over; don’t wait to get angry, feel rejected and not feel good about yourself. Part of surviving a sexless marriage is realizing how bad you are feeling while in it.  If you start blaming your partner for the situation you could only make things worse.

There could be a very simple and easily understandable reason for your sexless marriage. To move forward, you need to find out what the cause of your sexless relationship is.

First, I want you to work on your attitude. Surviving a sexless marriage really does come down to your mental approach. In fact you’ve got to be mentally tough. I want to encourage you not to put up with a substandard relationship. A key to surviving a sexless marriage is not tolerating things that you don’t like.  This is about self respect.

Have higher standards for your marriage!

There isn’t a benefit for putting up with a low-quality marriage. This WILL affect your happiness and other areas of your life. It’s mentally draining and hard to live with, as I’m sure you’ve already found out. This kind of a marriage limits what you do with your life.

The attitude that you will simply “surivive” a sexless marriage is the kind of attitude that will not only prolong it but will lead to your unhappiness in life. For example, take two couples. In the first relationship, the husband is a heavy smoker and the wife hates it. She complains about it but doesn’t do anything about it.

In the other relationship, the man is a heavy smoker and the wife hates it. Instead of complaining about it, she does something about it. Every time she catches her husband smoking she leaves for a period of time or she kicks him out for a period of time.

The first wife wants change but isn’t going after it. The second wife wants change and decides to create change.  See the big difference?

Guess which wife is going to get her husband to stop smoking? It’s the same with your sexless marriage. It’s time for you to play hardball.

You’ve got to take it more seriously and make more of a point that you won’t tolerate it. You will need to be able to provide other options for your partner which may involve finding a good relationship therapist.

Even if sex isn’t the most important thing in your partner’s life, it will still be important to them if they know it is important to you.

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Feeling trapped in a sexless marriage isn’t fun. It’s difficult for both people involved and it’s something that needs to be fixed immediately.

Feeling trapped is such a disempowering emotion. Nothing can prepare you for being trapped in a sexless marriage.  It’s most certainly not what you signed up for when you exchanged wedding vows.  Don’t worry, statistics show that there are millions upon millions of Americans experiencing sexless marriage problems.  They can be solved.

What is it like to be trapped in a sexless marriage?

It feels as though you are a slave and there is no escape. However, making the change from being trapped in a sexless marriage to having a healthy sex-filled marriage is possible. You just have to work at it.  How big a deal is this? Is it worth breaking up with someone for better?  Should you just scrap your marriage and try to move on to someone that will satisfy you?

Do not cheat.  That would be a huge mistake.

A marriage without a healthy sex life is like a game of soccer without a soccer ball. A relationship where both individuals are trapped in a sexless marriage means that the relationship can never be quite right.

I highly recommend a technique called EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique.  It’s something I’ve recommended to couples in your predicament and it has an extremely high rate of success.  The emotional freedom technique is to meditate and concentrate on a single feeling.  Then, scream the feeling out.  Some psychologists have people beat pillows or use bats to release their primal feelings so that your emotions can rush to the surface.

This will help you to release you from that trapped feeling so you can start to take action. Ultimately, the feeling of being trapped is an illusion. You can deal with this situation, there are options, you can move on and you can fix things but not while you feel hopelessly trapped. The only prison that you have around you is your own mind. It’s created by you and it can be destroyed by you.

The first month is the worst.  It’s almost like dieting.

You must be willing to put in the work. Don’t be afraid of that initial period where everything will be difficult.. Face up to it, deal with it, and get through it.

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I want to help you with some marriage tips, they’re going to make you big difference in marriage.

Don’t worry if your relationship is on the brink!  There are plenty of couples who have found themselves in this predicament and have come out stronger for it.  It can happen for you too.  I always give the same advice when I hear about relationship trouble with any couple: get on top of it and do not wait.  Procrastination is deadly when relationship troubles rear their ugly head.   Here are some marriage tips for the troubled couple.

Remember when your parents instructed you to never go to bed angry, to try and figure out your problems before going to bed?  This sounds like good advice at first, but sometimes couples have deep seated issues that cannot be undone in a single evening.  I actually advocate for going to bed angry…in separate rooms.  Sounds weird?  Well, your grandmother may not approve, but there is a method to my madness.

Everyone needs a time out.  One of the big things that can aggravate a troubled couple is to not have breaks in between spats or arguments.  Everyone needs time to calm down, and being in a constant aggravated state makes any trouble worse because we end up saying things we shouldn’t.  Forcing yourself to stay with your spouse until you deem the problem over can escalate the conflict and cause you to say things you might not want to.  If you give yourself a break from your spouse, you can give  yourself time to sort yourself out.

Another marriage tip for the troubled couple is to have an area where all stress is removed from the environment.  For most couples, this is the bedroom.  Most people roll their eyes upon hearing this, but I see so many couples that are stressed out and can’t find solutions to simple problems because they do not have a safe place where it’s just the two of them.

Think of your bedroom as your sanctuary.  Remove all distractions.  Don’t bring your work into the bedroom.  Save all of the file folders, the stacks of papers, and the snacks for the kitchen.  The bedroom should be a sacred place where you and your partner are simply there to relax and enjoy one another.  This sounds so simple, but you’ll easily find that quarantining a part of your house where your kids cannot enter and where the stresses of the outside world melt away,

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Seeing marriage problems signs early is very important.Seeing marriage problems signs?

What do we need to watch out for if we think we’re seeing signs of marriage problems?  We might think our marriage is going just fine, but are there special signs we should keep an eye on so that we can predict a problem before it becomes too much to handle?  There are, and if you’re knowledgeable, you can save your marriage before it’s too late!

First off, how often do you and your spouse make love?  Physical intimacy is the bedrock for many marriages.  Without it, your marriage devolves into simply a great friendship, and for many people, that’s just not enough.  If you feel your love life has taken a turn for the worse, it’s time to head off the problem and do something spontaneous and romantic.  Make sure that it breaks your normal routine and that your spouse is genuinely surprised.  Nothing builds romance and passion like uncertainty and spontaneity.

Another marriage problem sign you need to watch out for is if your spouse seems distant or aloof when they had been interested and engaged before.  This can be a surefire sign of marriage boredom, and if left to fester, can turn into strife later.  Marriage is supposed to build both people within the relationship and can offer ways for both people to grow and experience life in ways they couldn’t as individuals.  If your relationship isn’t accomplishing this, boredom can set in, and so can the wandering eye.

Does your spouse avoid you?  This might be, in fact, unthinkable for a couple.  However, when the glow of being newlyweds fades, have you fallen into the rut of monotony?  Do you feel that you do not need to do anything special for your mate now that you are married?  If you don’t show your partner that you value your relationship with them, they may feel slighted and distant.  They may find that staying at work extra hours or going out with their friends may be preferable to being home with you.

This might sound harsh, but relationships are ongoing and require a lot of work.  Your partner entered the marriage with you out of love, respect, passion, and because they though their life would be enhanced.  You most likely did for the same reasons, or more.  You cannot just rest on your laurels after you say “I do.”  It’s time to make the most of your relationship with your partner and to cherish them.

Do activities you know your partner loves, or talk about subjects they like to talk about.  Let them know you value your time together, and your marriage will take on a new character.  Change your home décor and buy a new car.  Go to a movie you would never otherwise go to or take up a new sport.  Take your spouse out to an art festival or to samba dancing.  There’s a world of new activities.

There are more signs of a strained marriage, but if you notice that your spouse is avoiding you, or you are having fewer and fewer chances to have intimate relations, or if you feel like your partner is just plain bored, there are ways to head off these problems so that you don’t find yourself in a psychologist’s office, wondering why you have to now have marriage counseling.

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Dealing with a marriage in trouble requires some drastic measures.  Don’t worry though, I’ve got some great advice that works!Marriage in trouble?

Don’t let marriage problems ruin your life.  I know, it probably feels like the walls around you are crumbling.  You fight with your spouse all the time.  The bills keep coming in, but you have no money to pay them.  You blame each other for everything that goes wrong, and you haven’t been on a romantic date in months!  Don’t worry.  Take a deep breath.  If your marriage is in trouble, then you need to proactively go after the problem.

The #1 cause of marriage stress is financial related.  Couples normally break up after a layoff or some other horrendous financial calamity.  Sometimes it’s because bills pile up and you have no idea how you’re going to make it from month to month.  This happens to anyone and it is nothing to be embarrassed about, and it is definitely not the time to be at each other’s throats.  It’s time to come up with a new budget, to try and find a cheaper place to live and a cheaper car, and take time out to get your lives together.

If it’s not financial stress, then maybe there has been infidelity?  I know how hard this time in your life can be.  You feel your spouse has betrayed you and your wedding vows, and you don’t know how you could ever pick up the pieces of your broken marriage.  The first thing to do is not jump to conclusions.  I cannot tell you how many phone calls I get from hysterical wives who think they’re husband is cheating on them, basing their assertions on the fact that they saw him walking down the street with another woman.

Don’t make assumptions!  The woman you saw your husband with may or may not be sleeping with him. She may be an old classmate or a childhood friend.  Men and women can have platonic relationships, even when they’re married!  If you really feel he is cheating on you, hire a private detective and gather some evidence.  If he is indeed seeing someone else, you’ll have to breakup with him and most likely move to a new city.

If your marriage is in trouble because of substance abuse problems, I have to be honest and say that it’s probably not going to work out.  Sure, people can come out of alcohol programs and drug programs better people, but usually substance abuse destroys relationships and the people who abuse.  It may be too late if they’ve become violent or withdrawn.  It might be time to leave.

Marriage troubles are tough, and sometimes we have to understand when our marriage is no longer salvageable.  However, if we come into our marriage from a position of strength, where we are actively looking for problems to solve and mountains to climb, then we can get out of the marriage trouble woods quite quickly.

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Do you feel like marriage boredom is starting to set in?  You CAN do something about it.

Is your marriage stuck in a rut?  Do you feel you are living the same day over and over and over again?  This can easily happen in a marriage where it feels like everything went just right.  The honeymoon eventually has to end, and everyday life sets in.  For many couples, monotony also sets in, so we need to know whether or not we are experiencing symptoms of marriage boredom.

When’s the last time you went on a date with your spouse?

This is a very important question and the answer will pinpoint whether or not you are starting to get bored with your marriage.  Romance is central to you and your spouse maintaining an exciting, life affirming, mutually healthy relationship.  When’s the last time you went dancing, or to a fancy candlelit dinner, or went to go see your favorite art house movie?  When is the last time you danced in the rain or saw a romantic night sky with your spouse?

It is so important that we make sure that adventure and mystery remain a part of our marriage.  It is a surefire way to kill marriage boredom, and it helps us grow as people, which is what marriage is supposed to do.  If you cannot remember the last time you felt a magic bond with your spouse, it’s time to get out there and enjoy life.

Is your spouse predictable?

Predictability in life is great if you have children or just want to experience the clockwork of domesticity.  However, you don’t want your spouse to be so predictable that you know what they’re going to do and say before they do it.  This leads to stagnation and marriage boredom, and there is a way to break the cycle of monotony before you feel like you’re in a coffin.

Many marriage boredom self-help articles will say “be spontaneous,” which sounds like weird advice because spontaneity is not supposed to be planned by definition.  However, there are ways you can take control and purposefully break up your daily routine which will in turn lead to surprising things to happen.  Go on a vacation to somewhere whose name you cannot pronounce.  Try out a new hobby.  Go ballroom dancing or learn tantric yoga.  There are thousands of activities you’ve never tried before, and now is the time to go do them.

Marriage boredom sets in when our lives become to ho’ hum and we do not take the time to enrich ourselves and our marriage by going on adventures with our spouse.  Marriage boredom easily sets in when life seems to stand still.  It’s an easy to fix problem if you maintain an open mind and remind yourself that life never stops moving.

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Do I need couples therapy? That’s a question you can be faced with and you might be unsure whether to do it or not.Couples therapy, do you need it?

Couples therapy can work wonders for a relationship on the rocks and may be necessary to save your marriage.  However couple’s therapy is not for everyone, and you may be wondering if it’s even necessary or whether or not it works in the first place.  Hundreds of people go to see a couple’s therapist and achieve great results, while others find that their relationship falls apart regardless, so there are a few things to consider.

First off, couples therapy is not cheap.  A competent couples therapist can cost anywhere from $75-$150 per hour!  This means you have to really research any therapist you’re considering and decide whether or not the price is worth it.  You can usually save money by going to a couples retreat, especially if you feel the need for a vacation, as the retreats are usually group therapy and cost a bit less.  Be sure that your therapist is accredited and try to research to see if they have a lot of success with other couples.

Who seeks out couples therapy?

You normally seek couples therapy when you are experiencing problems in your relationship that seem to have no end in sight.  Sometimes people carry baggage or emotional pain from a previous relationship, and it manifests itself negatively in their current relationship.  This happens a lot with married couples with children, where the stress of daily life and raising children makes keeping up a relationship more difficult.  In these cases, many couples slip into having a sexless marriage, and divorce seems imminent.  In such cases, a marital therapist might be just the trick.

A couples therapist is also great if you find that your relationship is filled with strife and arguments.  If your evenings usually devolve into a screaming match, then a couples therapist can help work through your issues.  The best thing about most couples therapists is that they are intensive, where you work with a professional in a quiet, controlled setting.  This usually helps both you and your partner remain calm and freely talk about your innermost feelings.

Anything else I should know?

Be very careful with couples therapy though, because the results may not be what you expected.  Some couples leave therapy and decide that it’d be best if both people went their separate ways.  Most couples therapists will not recommend for either partner to remain in the relationship if it would have a negative effect on either.

Couples therapy isn’t for everyone.  For minor problems, you can save a lot of money and time by just purchasing books or taking time out of your schedule and talking the problem out with your partner.  If you are constantly fighting or feel that there are deeper issues in your relationship that neither you nor your partner really have a handle on, then couple’s therapy may be the best investment.

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