Dating Advice

The marriage proposal is one of the most talked about phenomenons in dating. Everyone wants their marriage proposal to be special and men go out of their way to try to make it “the best.” In today’s world, with our ever-expanding access to other people’s media, we see all different kinds of marriage proposals. Don’t believe me? Just head over to Youtube and see for yourself. With this visibility of other marriage proposals, men are often worried about making the proposal. Not only are they worried or nervous about being rejected, but now they are worried that the wedding proposal will be less than satisfactory. What’s a guy to do? What is the perfect marriage proposal?

Marriage is about spending your life together, side by side. A marriage proposal should be about the love that surrounds that commitment.

Luckily for men, the perfect marriage proposal isn’t as daunting as it may seem. While some women really do want the biggest and grandest gestures, it’s likely that you’ll already know if you have one of those women. Most women don’t care about the grandeur of the proposal itself, but rather about the emotion and love behind it. In other words, they want to know you care and they want to hear you share how you feel.

When looking for ways to propose, think of ways to make it special and unique. A woman wants to know that you’ve thought about it, that you mean it, and that you are excited for this next step in your relationship as well. Look for places that mean something to both of you. Perhaps there is a park that you first walked through when you began dating? Or maybe that restaurant where you had your first date? How about the location where you first told each other that you loved each other? Find a place that holds a special memory. It will automatically make your wedding proposal more romantic because romance, is really all about care and thoughtfulness. It’s a connection.

Then you have the words. What will you say to this woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with? It’s up to you. The pressure is on. I’ve found it works best when guys focus more on how they feel rather than trying to make something witty, clever, or romantic. She wants to hear about why you first fell in love with her, why you want to spend the rest of your life with her now, and some of the special memories the two of you have created along the way. Don’t make it more difficult than it has to be. Speak from the heart and she’ll be happy. If writing poems or songs is something that you do a lot, it’s okay to use one in your proposal. However, it isn’t necessary. If you aren’t an artistic guy, don’t worry. She already knows that about you and she just wants you to be you. That’s the best advice I can give to someone looking to craft the perfect marriage proposal. It’s about remembering the special moments that you’ve had together, it’s about speaking from the heart, and it’s about being you. After all, it is YOU she fell in love with.

New couples, whether of the recently married or recently “official boyfriend/girlfriend” status, often struggle with trust issues in their relationship. Being able to trust your relationship is one of the most important predicators to a healthy, lasting relationship. For those who may be struggling with building trust in their relationship or would just like to enhance the existing trust in their relationship, these tips will guide you there.

Trusting your partner is a key factor in building a healthy, lasting relationship together.

The first step to building a strong level of trust in your relationship is telling the truth, almost all of the time. I say almost because a surprise birthday party is still okay. Everything else though, really needs to be honest. When someone is truthful with you and you are truthful with them, you are able to rely and depend upon one another. For any kind of relationship, this is crucial.

The second step is being a reliable and dependable person in the relationship. If you tell your partner that you’ll be home at a certain time or that you will bring home the groceries, do it! Following through on what you say is important when building trust in a relationship.

Next, set boundaries. Jealousy has a way of ruining relationships and crushing trust. It’s best to set boundaries with your partner. If you know it upsets her when you take phone calls with your ex, then don’t set out for lunch dates with your ex. Respect one another enough to follow boundaries. While no one should be completely restricted, it helps to know what is upsetting to one another and doing your best to avoid those things.

Another important step in order to trust your relationship requires being trustworthy yourself. If your partner cannot trust you, then how will they be able to commit to the relationship? They will be worried as well and the two of you will be ruminating over the lack of trust present in the relationship. If you are trustworthy and your partner is right to trust you, then he or she can trust you as well. Remember, relationships are mutual and most definitely not one-sided. If he or she cannot trust you, how do you expect to be able to trust your partner?

Lastly, trust in yourself! You have decided to be with this person right now, in this moment. Something inside told you that this person was a good fit, a perfect match. Let yourself cherish the relationship rather than worrying about it’s demise. Trust in your own judgement and believe that the relationship is not only worthwhile, but one that you can feel safe in.

Trust is one of the aspects in relationships that keeps people together. If you look at any lasting relationship, a strong foundation of trust exists. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, for it to be successful, both parties must trust one another. If you have a particularly difficult time trusting others, it may be something that you need to address more openly. Sometimes trust issues work against not only romantic relationships, but relationships with friends, family members, and mentors. Remember that you’ve chosen to be with this person and trust yourself. Be someone that your partner can trust and he or she will trust you. While trust is not always the easiest thing to cultivate, it is definitely a quality that can be cultivated with the proper time and commitment.

We grow up on Hollywood movies that promise us our lives will one day have the perfect man or woman and we will live together, happily ever after. The reality is that life doesn’t always fall into place and it certainly won’t fall into place on its own. We would like to think that if we sit back and remain open to the experience, someone who fits our every need and want, will magically appear. We would like to think that love will find us all on its own.

There isn’t anything wrong with wanting to be with someone. Knowing that you have a companion for life, someone to cherish and hold on to as you make your way through life. It makes sense. The problem occurs when we become complacent. We sit back and wait for this “happily ever after” to come knocking on our door.

Sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands. Go meet people doing what you love. These two met through a local hiking group.

I had this friend, Amy, who was always upset with her dating life. Over and over she would say to me, “Ryan, I just can’t find a guy that I like! Why aren’t there any decent men out there?” And do you know what I told her? I asked her, “Amy, where do you go to meet men?” She told me she went to the bar on occasion to find men. These are the two most common dating mistakes that I encounter in the women and men who come to me for relationship advice: not making active dating choices and not looking in the right places. Both leave you destined for failure.

#1. Not Making Active Dating Choices

The title of this article includes the phrase, “make it happen.” You have probably encountered this phrase before in your life, but have you ever really paid attention to it? To “make” something happen, you have to take an active role. Amy occasionally went to places to find men. Otherwise she stayed within her circle of friends. She wasn’t meeting many new men on a regular basis. It makes it difficult for a guy to ask you out if you aren’t around for him to ask. For men, it makes it difficult to ask a woman out if you aren’t meeting new women.

The first step that you have to take when looking to ask out someone or be asked out by someone…is meeting new people! Go places where you don’t know anyone or are likely to meet new people. Talk to others. Get to know them. Approach them. You don’t need to tire yourself out and it isn’t about going out every night. It is about choosing one night a week to  go somewhere new or that will enable you to meet new people.

This has become one of the biggest problems with creating new relationships. Too many of the people who come to me for advice have become complacent and are unable or unwilling to meet new people. To find a lasting relationship, you have to be willing to put forth the effort. Part of this means “making it happen” for yourself, instead of waiting at home “wishing it to happen.”

#2. Not Looking in the Right Places

Once you are ready to put yourself out there and willing to take an active role in your dating life, you need to make sure that you are looking in the right places. Remember my friend, Amy? She was looking for men at the bar. A bar usually isn’t the best place to find someone unless you’re looking for something that isn’t serious, but rather partying or perhaps someone else who loves to frequent bars. It’s unlikely that my friend Amy was going to find someone who matched her lifestyle. Sure, she likes to go out and party, but she wanted to find someone who shared her interests.

I suggested that Amy look in a number of places based on what she enjoys doing. Amy loves volleyball, biking, is a religious person, and loves movies. The best way to find someone else who enjoys these things would be to look for them at volleyball leagues, biking leagues, church/mass – wherever her religious services were held, and at the cinema or a film club. Of course it isn’t possible to join a variety of groups or leagues for the sole purpose of meeting someone. It is, however, practical to choose one or two things to join. Amy decided to join a beach volleyball league near her home and started frequenting a local indie film joint. While she hasn’t found her Prince Charming yet, her dating life has dramatically improved. She is meeting new people and going on dates with men who share her interests.

If you’re looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, it helps to meet people who share some of your interests. It also helps to look for people who share similar lifestyles. The best place to meet these people is not at the bar. It’s at a place that

Not sure where to go? Check out This is a free site that lets you search your area for fun groups that match your interests. You would be amazed at the amount of groups available to join. You never know who might be waiting there for you! (PS. Some of the groups are actually speed dating groups! That can always be a fun experience if not a way to meet someone special).

No matter what way you choose to pursue a relationship, make sure that you’re giving it your all. It isn’t helpful to join a group and show up only to keep quiet. Introduce yourself to others and get to know them. At the very least, you’ll end up with a new friend. While it may not be possible to live forever “happily ever after,” you may find someone to bring along on life’s crazy journey by taking an active role in your dating life.

So you have been broken up for a while, but now your ex boyfriend wants to get back together. What are you supposed to do in this situation? Though you may be an emotional wreck and are unsure of what decision you want to make, there are some ways in which you can figure out the best path for yourself. By asking yourself these essential questions, you will be able to determine whether or not you should agree to your ex-boyfriend’s plea to restore the relationship.

Do you still care about him? This question is absolutely vital in figuring out what decision to make. If you no longer have feelings for him, the relationship will never be successful. Though you do not want to hurt him, entering in a relationship with him when you do not truly care will ultimately hurt him even worse. However, if you still have feelings for your ex, then you should consider giving both him and the relationship another chance.

Does he make you happy? Do you feel like a better person around him? If you believe that your ex-boyfriend brought you joy in life, then do not let him slip through your fingers. By all means, give the relationship a second chance. Just because it didn’t work out the first time does not mean it never will. On the other hand, if being with your ex made you feel miserable all the time, then do not get back together with him.

If you still care about him and enjoyed having him in your life, then you must ask yourself a final question – are you willing to give him another chance? Though he may have messed up once, it does not mean that he will mess up in the future. He is only a human, and if you think he is worth it, then go ahead; forgive him for his faults and give him a second chance.

Does my ex girlfriend want me back? Hundreds of men ask themselves this question every single day. However, though the answer is an ambiguous one, it can sometimes be a “yes.” But how can you tell if she does – in fact – want you back? All women are different, but there are a number of tell-tale signs that can insinuate she misses you and wants you in her life once again.

When you see her at an event you are both attending, does she constantly sneak glances or even stare at you? If so, then it is evident she is interested in you and wants to keep a close eye on what you are up to. Do your friends tell you that she checks you out all the time? This is an even bigger sign that she wants you back. In this case, staring is caring.

Has she tried to keep in contact with you? Though you may think that simple text message was just a friendly way to say hello, it may mean a little more than you think. If she had no interest in you anymore, she would certainly not feel the need to talk to you, even as “friends.” So if she called you up to see how you were doing, do not automatically assume it was a pity call. Often enough, she is calling because she actually cares about you and what is going on in your life.

Has she told you flat-out that she still has feelings for you? There is no greater, more obvious sign that this to let you know she wants you back. If she tells you she misses you, still has feelings for you, wants to hang out again, or anything that is similar to these, then what she really means is that she wants you back in her life.

So does my ex girlfriend want me back? If she has given off these signs, it is likely that she does.

“I want girl friend,” exclaimed Billy, my friend’s 5-year-old son, the other night while I was visiting. Don’t we all, Billy, don’t we all? Having a girlfriend comes with many advantages, and even the most womanizing men still have the desire to love and be loved by a woman. But what are some of the great advantages that having a girlfriend entails, and how can it be better than being single? Well, here are a few reasons.

You will not feel lonely. Though being single is fun, you will still have that empty feeling lingering inside of you. Having a girlfriend feels this void. Not only will you have someone to care about you, but you will have someone to care for in return.

You will always have someone to talk to. When a girl cares about you, she also cares about what is going on in your life. If you had a rough day at work, you can always talk to her about it and she will find a way to make it better.

You will not be bored. If you have a girlfriend, you can hang out with her whenever you want. If your friends are not doing anything over the weekend, then you know you can always go out on a date with her. In actuality, spending time with her can be even more enjoyable than hanging out with your buddies.

You will have someone that will be there for you. When you are in the middle of a crisis, she will always care about you and will support you through it.

You will feel loved. This is one of the most amazing feelings in the world, and it is the greatest advantage of having a girlfriend.

Because of these reasons, and countless others that I did not mention, a girlfriend is wonderful to have. What man wouldn’t want one?

So your boyfriend wants to get back together with you. This can be one of the most complicated predicaments a woman can experience, and it may cause unnecessary stress in your life. However, by asking yourself a few questions, you can determine how you really feel and whether or not you should take him back.

Is he being sincere? Considering this question is essential. Though he says he wants to get back together, he may have ulterior motifs. If he had the upper hand in the relationship, he may just want to get back together so that he has someone to control again. Being used is not a pleasant experience, so make sure to avoid it at all costs. However, if he wants to get back together because he realized he truly cares about you, then you can decide whether or not your feelings are mutual.

Another great question to ask yourself is “Do you want to be with him?” Sometimes the fear of being alone may cause you to enter into relationships that you do not actually want to be in. Do you care about him? Do you like spending time around him? Even if you do, it is important to keep in mind that being single does have its advantages. You have the time to focus on yourself, your career, your friends, your family, and your life instead of constantly focusing on your relationship.

If you have decided that he cares about you, and you care about him in return, do not be afraid to give him a second chance. Just because it didn’t work out the first time doesn’t mean it will never work. If your boyfriend wants to get back together and is sincere in his efforts, then there’s no harm in trying out the relationship one more time.

So you finally got that special man to be you boyfriend. But now how do you keep him? Many women have no lack in finding a guy; they just have trouble staying in a relationship with him. Though being boyfriend and girlfriend can bring you great joy, it can also bring stress and heartache. However, by following this advice, you will learn all the tricks on how to keep your boyfriend.

When you are in a relationship, it is always important to give your boyfriend his space. If you are clingy, demanding, and want to spend every second of your life with him, he will feel suffocated. Bad things happen when men feel suffocated, and he will most likely break up with you. Being overly-attached is a very bad thing because not only will it annoy your boyfriend, but it can also make you lose yourself. Focus on yourself and your own life too, not just your boyfriend.

Another mistake that women tend to make is being too self-absorbed to care about their boyfriend. Though it is important to give him his freedom, if you stop caring about him altogether, he will feel neglected. Men do not like to say out loud that they want to feel loved, but – in reality – they do. When you talk to him, make sure you listen to what he has to say too; don’t just talk about yourself the entire time. Ask him how work is going, what’s new in his life, and if anything exciting has happened to him lately. Show your interest and support him in his tough times!

By avoiding these two common mistakes, the risk of your relationship hitting the rocks will be much lower. Want to know how to keep your boyfriend? Give him his freedom, care about him, listen to him, and remember to have your own life in the process.

So you’ve made eye contact with that attractive man from across the room, but how do you make him want you? Though you may say that you will never be desirable to men, you are just letting your insecurities speak for you. Any woman can appear desirable – no matter her hair color, height, figure, skin tone, or facial structure. Instead, it relies on your body language, personality and attitude! By following these helpful tips, you will have him wanting you in no time!

The first step is to ooze confidence, because he will be able to pick up on it from a distance. Ignore your insecurities and focus on all of your great attributes. Doing this will make you feel good about yourself and will ultimately put you in a better mood. If you are happy with yourself and your life, people will be able to sense it because your body language will appear open and approachable.

Being approachable is essential for making him want you. If you stand in a corner with your arms crossed, you look uncomfortable and unhappy – therefore, you are unapproachable. No matter how beautiful you are, he will be intimidated by you for fear of you giving him the cold shoulder. He still may want you, but you will never know because he will not come up to you and strike up a conversation. By using proper body language, he will see that you are open for conversation and will approach you.

When he does decide to come over to talk to you, make sure to be interesting. Contribute to the conversation and be fun to talk to. If you are boring, he will not want you. Do not be afraid to flirt; in fact, flirting is essential in this situation. Make him feel good about himself and he will want to be in your company at all times.

Not all first dates have to be face-to-face. An online first date offers almost all the advantages of a regular first date without those feelings of stress and anxiety. Though some people say that online dating is faulty and will never spawn a relationship, they are wrong. Thousands of couples have met through online dating – couples that are happily married today! So do not listen to those people who are against online dates and try it out sometime!

But what can you consider an online date, exactly? One of the most popular forms of an online date is a video-chat conversation. Though you are not technically face-to-face, you can still see and talk to each other. This type of online first date is perfect if you are interested in someone who lives hundreds of miles away. Certain online dating sites will match you up with someone to go on a virtual date with, so that is another option as well.

One of the greatest advantages of an online first date is that it is far less stressful than a typical date. You do not have to worry about picking the right outfit, the right location, or any other excruciating details. The only part that matters is you and that special person getting to know each other.

With less distractions, you and that special someone can focus on your conversation more than anything else. Instead of judging you based on your looks, they will judge you based on your personality – which is a wonderful thing! Since you will not be face-to-face, you will not feel as nervous or terrified of opening up to each other.

Have you never been on an online first date? Go ahead; try it sometime, because it offers many advantages, is completely enjoyable and will not let you down!