Dealing with a marriage in trouble requires some drastic measures. Don’t worry though, I’ve got some great advice that works!
Don’t let marriage problems ruin your life. I know, it probably feels like the walls around you are crumbling. You fight with your spouse all the time. The bills keep coming in, but you have no money to pay them. You blame each other for everything that goes wrong, and you haven’t been on a romantic date in months! Don’t worry. Take a deep breath. If your marriage is in trouble, then you need to proactively go after the problem.
The #1 cause of marriage stress is financial related. Couples normally break up after a layoff or some other horrendous financial calamity. Sometimes it’s because bills pile up and you have no idea how you’re going to make it from month to month. This happens to anyone and it is nothing to be embarrassed about, and it is definitely not the time to be at each other’s throats. It’s time to come up with a new budget, to try and find a cheaper place to live and a cheaper car, and take time out to get your lives together.
If it’s not financial stress, then maybe there has been infidelity? I know how hard this time in your life can be. You feel your spouse has betrayed you and your wedding vows, and you don’t know how you could ever pick up the pieces of your broken marriage. The first thing to do is not jump to conclusions. I cannot tell you how many phone calls I get from hysterical wives who think they’re husband is cheating on them, basing their assertions on the fact that they saw him walking down the street with another woman.
Don’t make assumptions! The woman you saw your husband with may or may not be sleeping with him. She may be an old classmate or a childhood friend. Men and women can have platonic relationships, even when they’re married! If you really feel he is cheating on you, hire a private detective and gather some evidence. If he is indeed seeing someone else, you’ll have to breakup with him and most likely move to a new city.
If your marriage is in trouble because of substance abuse problems, I have to be honest and say that it’s probably not going to work out. Sure, people can come out of alcohol programs and drug programs better people, but usually substance abuse destroys relationships and the people who abuse. It may be too late if they’ve become violent or withdrawn. It might be time to leave.
Marriage troubles are tough, and sometimes we have to understand when our marriage is no longer salvageable. However, if we come into our marriage from a position of strength, where we are actively looking for problems to solve and mountains to climb, then we can get out of the marriage trouble woods quite quickly.
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