Find Love

When you wonder whether love truly exists, you might think of “The Notebook.” One of the most popular movies in existence, it centers on the idea that we all have one soul mate who we will find true love with. For some people, this concept is foolish. For some, it makes complete sense.

I think that the love found in “The Notebook” does really exist. I’ve seen it in many couples. However, I wouldn’t say that everyone has only one soul mate. Even if you do have one soul mate, I think there are other mates that you’ll find and who can cultivate great love for you.

Not every relationship begins with this incredible spark or this “love at first sight” phenomenon. Some relationships begin the more natural way. Basic attraction, time alone, and are then developed over time. This kind of a relationship has the power to offer the same kind of love found in “The Notebook,” though it starts off differently.

It’s important to remember that love comes in all shapes and sizes. No two loves are alike, though the experiences may be similar. Allow yourself to remain open to the possibilities of finding love in someone who doesn’t look like he or she walked out of a fairy tale. Stay away from the mindset that there will be a magical movie moment to begin your relationship. Movie moments often come later in a relationship as it progresses. It isn’t an instantaneous surge of love on day one. Let love progress in it’s own time.  If you do, you’ll be much happier with the results, I promise.

When the search for love is overwhelming, it’s nice to know that you can find love without trying so much. If you’ve been actively pursuing love, but haven’t found anything. Don’t worry.

The love that I’ve seen others find usually comes when they least expect it. It may be that you’re trying TOO hard. Be open. Be available. Don’t be in a constant, frenzied search for that perfect “someone.” He or she may not exist. Try the less perfect. And if you still can’t find anyone, relax. There is time.

Despite what the media tries to tell us, love does exist and can be found at 30, 40, 50 or even 70 years of age. You don’t need to find it at 16. Or 25. Let that notion go. It does nothing but add anxiety and stress.

Sometimes it’s good to remember to take a break to rejuvenate yourself. All of that “searching” ‘can be exhausting and it can wreak havoc on your health. One of my friends recently went through this kind of dating exhaustion. “Why aren’t there any good girls,” he asked me. I asked him where he was looking and his response, “Well, I go to a bar every night.” A bar. This guy was looking for a really decent girl who shared his religious beliefs and love for kayaking and he was looking in a bar! He should be looking at church services. He should be looking church events. He should be looking at kayaking clubs. Sometimes the search can be overwhelming because you’re setting yourself up for failure.

If you’re just looking for a fun fling, then it doesn’t matter where you look. If you’re looking for love, then you need to go deeper than a mere bar. You need to give yourself a real chance at finding someone with whom you’re compatible.

Maybe you’ve seen the film “Twilight” or perhaps you’ve just heard about it. Either way, I know that you’re asking – how do I find that?

Will you find Twilight love? Some people say that you won’t. It’s a love that exists in films and those alone. You won’t find someone that you fall madly in love with and who falls madly in love with you. Better to settle. Then there are those people who tell you that it does exist. You can find the guy or girl from your dreams, if you keep looking. Don’t settle.

It’s confusing at best. The key to finding your love is to be open. If there’s one thing to learn from Twilight, despite it’s somewhat creepy portrayal of Edward stalking Bella, it’s that we need to be open when looking for love. Love comes in all kinds of guises and we need to be willing to try them.

So often I see men and women who turn someone down based on their looks alone or some facet of their mannerisms. I encourage people to try to be more lenient with this. It’s best if you can remain open to all of the possibilities offered to you. Let a guy take you out on a date or ask out a girl you might not otherwise. See where it goes. It’s okay to go on a date and then decide that she/he isn’t right for you. All I’m asking is that you make an effort.

Bella was open to Edward, despite his being a vampire. I wouldn’t recommend that you date a stalker, but being open to small faults in people opens you up to all of their other qualities. You never know who you’ll fall in love with. Don’t shut yourself off to those possibilities.

There are a few things to keep in mind to have a long lasting and loving relationship…

We’ve all seen these kinds of couples. They’re older, they’ve got gray hair and they seem so unbelievably happy. Not everyone wants this kind of love. Not everyone is ready for it. And then there are those that crave it and that would do anything to find it within their own lives.

If the latter sounds like you, then be prepared to find love in a lasting relationship.

#1. Look in the Right Places

So many people head to bars to pick up women or to find men. If you’re the party guy or gal who enjoys going out and rocking it every night – then good! You’re absolutely looking in the right places. However, if you aren’t into the party scene or you prefer to do other things, then that’s where you need to be looking. If you’re an adventurous type then join a few clubs and jump onto a trail. You’ll have a much better chance at meeting someone who enjoys what you do and your interests will better ensure compatibility. If you’re a member of a religious denomination, joining a church group can be another great way to meet interested singles.

#2. Take a Chance

You’ll never know love if you hide out in the corner. People complain about their options because they often aren’t pursuing anything. They have plenty of options in front of them, but because of a fear of rejection or failure they don’t seize them. If you like someone, let them know. It’s okay if they aren’t interested. Move on. You want someone who wants you. Just make sure that you’re encouraging those who might be interested by letting them know that you’re interested too.

#3. Open Up

A lasting relationship is built on good communication and on a deep connection. Don’t jump into revealing personal, sensitive truths about yourself. Do open up slowly so that one day you can reveal those truths about yourself and share your intimate thoughts with your partner. It’s okay to protect yourself by taking things slow emotionally, but make sure that they are moving. Allow yourself to open up as time goes on and the relationship progresses. This is important for both parties.

When following these tips it’s definitely possible to find someone who you can grow old with. Even after time passes, you grow older, and that spark typically fades…it is possible to always rewind your relationship to it’s most blissful states. Watch my FREE video presentation to see how…CLICK HERE to check out the video while you still can…

Dinner and a movie?  Lame!  Here are some exciting first date ideas!

If you want your first date to rival the one in that classic black and white romance movie, these ideas will do the trick. Though some romantic first date ideas may be too cheesy or too intense for your taste, there are others that are the perfect medium. Go out for a night on the town, stargaze, watch the sunrise or sunset together, or even plan a romantic, candlelit dinner at a nice restaurant. Any of these ideas will be sure to have that special guy or girl feeling fireworks.

First off, try something new!  Everyone does dinner and a movie.  That’s boring.  Why not go to an art festival or a museum that shows off the wall art?  You need a good conversation piece on the first date and you want to show off your creativity, so try to find something that will show just how unique of an individual you are.  Remember, women do NOT want boring men.  They want to feel like they’re alive.

Planning a night on the town is incredibly romantic, especially if you go dancing. The lights of the city – when mixed with cocktails and beautiful music – can be quite intoxicating. There is no better setting for your passionate, romantic date. So hold that lucky guy or girl close while dancing; go ahead and let the sparks fly between you.

Stargazing is an excellent idea for a romantic date. How many romance movies or novels feature a scene in which the couple of interest goes stargazing together? The answer: a lot. The night sky is one of the most beautiful gifts of nature, and the quiet environment will give you and that special someone a chance to get to know each other on a deeper level.

What about rock climbing?  If you and your date are adventurous and you like to go rock climbing?  What about surfing or white water rafting? These are all great ways to have an adventurous first date and get the blood pumping.  Remember, competition and getting your heart racing are great ways to find yourself between the sheets later.

The sunrise and sunset are also two very beautiful natural occurrences. Like stargazing, watching the sunrise or sunset together is also a preference of couples in romance books and movies. Why shouldn’t it be? Not only are they both simply breathtaking, but they symbolize the beginning or end of a day. Share that moment with someone special.

Perhaps the most popular idea for a romantic date is a candlelit dinner. The hushed dimness lit by fiery candles is the epitome of passionate environments – so feel free to converse in low, sexy whispers.

With these romantic first date ideas, sparks will be flying between you and that special someone in no time.

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Sometimes we smother each other with our presence. For some people, this is what they want. They crave time together, both mentally, emotionally and physically. For some people, however, this is debilitating and leads to failed relationships…

We all have different needs and some of us need individual freedom. You can keep your relationship alive with individual freedom if you follow these simple guidelines.

Have one activity that is yours alone. Do not share everything with your partner. Sure, tell him or her where you’re going and what you’re doing. Just don’t take them along with you. It’s great to share similar interests and to participate in activities together. Just make sure that you have one activity that is only yours. It serves as a way for you to meet new people and to spend some much-needed time out on your own.

Don’t be afraid to ask for quiet space. Not everyone wants to spend time with their partner every second of every day. It’s okay to ask for some time alone so you can read a book, take a calming bath, or go on a tranquil walk. You may just need time alone with your thoughts. Those who are introverted need time to reflect and ponder without anyone in their presence. Let your partner know that sometimes you need to be alone and I’m sure that he or she will honor that.

One of the best ways that I’ve found to keep my relationship alive with individual freedom is by creating a space that is mine. Everyone knows to let me be in that room and I can go there to retreat and do my own thing. Then I re-emerge full of life and ready to spend every moment with my partner. By allowing me to spend time alone and refuel, it enables me to be fully present with my wife when we are together. Those moments become all the more special.

I would encourage you to remember that it’s okay to spend time alone as long as you aren’t hiding or running from your partner. Let yourself find individual freedom and keep your relationship alive!

With more individual freedom, you’ll have a clear head so you can better work on your relationship when you are together. You’ll be able to keep those initial sensual feelings and keep them for good. Watch my FREE video presentation to see a powerful method to do just that…CLICK HERE to check out the video while you still can…

Losing the attraction in a relationship is a very common issue people face…

Attraction is an important feature of relationships and unfortunately it is typically one that fades. Thankfully, fading attraction doesn’t have to be the case. What can you do to avoid not feeling attracted to your partner anymore?

First, make sure that you and your partner are commited to your physical health. It’s important to continue to work out. Trying new activities such as white water rafting, hiking, surfing, or even zip-lining can be fun ways to get a workout in and do something physical together. Maintaing your body is one of the best ways to keep your partner’s interest. It’s one of the best ways to keep the level of attraction between the two of you as well.

Second, personal hygiene. Everyone loves a magnetic smile and a white smile will make any smile shine regardless of your bite, gum size or tooth size. Brush your teeth twice daily and floss. Of course, soap up in the shower and use a nice perfume or cologne at the beginning of the day. Just make sure not to try to use your fragrance to mask odor. This doesn’t work! The last “personal hygiene” issue involves your skin. Wear sunscreen before going out into the sun for longer than an hour and apply lotion every other day at the bare minimum. Keeping your skin luscious and soft will help keep your partner’s interest.

Lastly, remember that you can stay attractive for one another. You will age and you both have imperfections. However, you have the opportunity to be the best version of yourself and that’s what you should be looking to hold onto as your relationship continues. Don’t just do it for your partner, do it for yourself.

Beyond the physical appearance, the mental stuff is important too. Love that blissful state of mind when you’re in the honeymoon phase of your relationship? As you know, your feelings and emotions change. But what if there was a way to get back those initial sensual feelings and keep them for good? Watch my FREE video presentation to see how…CLICK HERE to check out the video while you still can…

There is something to be learned from the relationship between Penny and Leonard on the Big Bang Theory.

Big Bang Theory Relationship: Penny & Leonard
Opposites really DO attract!

It doesn’t matter what you think of their relationship, you can still learn a thing or two about how opposites attract.  So let’s take a look at this Big Bang Theory relationship.

First, some background information: Penny is the stereotypical cheerleader type.  She’s popular, attractive, but comes off as rather ditzy and flighty.  You could picture her with the captain of the football team or some glitzy actor.  Then, you have Leonard who is about as nerdy as it gets.  He wears frumpy clothes and looks like he spends most of his time in front of the computer.  You wouldn’t think that Leonard gets many dates.  How do these two stay together?

Well, in this case, it’s all about going past the exterior, and looking towards the interior.  You can’t judge a book by its cover, right?  Leonard has a lot of qualities that Penny finds very attractive, but it took some digging to find them.  At first, Penny looked at Leonard just like anyone else: a nerd with subpar looks that’d be more interested in Dungeons and Dragons than anything she would be interested in.  She opens herself up to dating someone who she would not normally date, and the results are magic.

The lesson to be learned is to expand your dating pool and consider people you might not normally date.  After all, a date is just a way for two people to get to know each other and figure out whether they are compatible romantic partners.  If you go on a single date with someone, and it doesn’t work out, then all you have to do is find someone else.  Nothing is etched in stone.  Think of it: You could be passing up a veritable soul mate if you were to only date people based on their looks or what other people thought of them.  Also look back to any failed relationship, and see if people turned out to be nothing like they seemed. It’s all about what makes you happy, not what the current fashion is.

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Making assumptions about relationships can be a very dangerous thing.  We make lots of assumptions about potential partners, what they like and don’t like, and what we think we want in a long term relationship.  Learn to stop making assumptions and to really think.

Don't Assume in the Dating World
Never giving up that search for love without assumptions.

Think back to some of your greatest relationships and try to remember what you first thought of your partner.  Did you think that they were romantic, spontaneous, and adventurous, or did you think something much of worse of them?  Why?  Did you let their clothes, or their mannerisms, or even the car they drove, make you assume things about them that were eventually disproven?  This is the trap we fall into when we make too many assumptions in the dating world.

Nothing is really as it seems.  In society, people put on a lot of airs to try and put the best face to the world.  That smartly dressed, professional looking man may attract you when you first seem him at the office or at the bus stop, but he might be, in fact, a terrible bore and no fun to take out on a date.  Conversely, that guy or girl you ignored because they wore drab clothing or because they weren’t popular at the office is in fact your soul mate.  If you let assumptions govern your behavior, how will you know which is the better partner?

Even when you are dating someone for a long time, assumptions can be deadly.  We make all kinds of assumptions with people we think we know.  It’s often how infidelity happens, because we assume that what we see is real, and what we think is real.

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Should I message a guy before he messages me? Many women wonder whether or not they should initiate contact in online dating situations. We all know that it can be considered forward or forceful in real life, but online do the same rules apply?

No. They definitely do not. Approach that man you think is so sexy with his lopsided grin and hazel eyes. Don’t let him slip away. He may be too nervous to message you or he may not have run across your profile. By not messaging him you may be letting an important opportunity go. The opportunity to get to know him better and perhaps find the love of your life.

You see, the internet works on different dating rules.  The fact that you are not face to face makes all of the difference.  It’s like a marketplace or speed dating.  Normally, the woman is not going to be the aggressive one, but the online dating ring is different.  Men actually really enjoy it when women pick them out of the thousands of different profiles.  Think of it as a big compliment.

When we think about potential partners, we often think that the man will find us. And yet it’s important to recognize that in the online world there are so many options. Scrolling through the search results, he may overlook you even if you’re exactly the kind of girl he’s looking for.

Just because he doesn’t find you or hasn’t messaged you for whatever reason, doesn’t mean he isn’t interested. Show initiative and message him first. I can promise you, you won’t be disappointed. If he doesn’t respond then it’s his loss. Move on to other guys. That’s the beauty of online dating. You can message multiple people and get to know someone before meeting in person. You are not making a commitment just by sending a nudge, a wink, a smile or a short, brief message.

Once you do get his attention, you want to have him chase you a bit.  It’s always nice to be noticed, but making a man work for it is always going to raise his passion level for you.  Remember, online dating has to be exciting.  It’s nice because you can control the flow, so be sure to use that fact to your advantage.

Open up the possibilities by feeling free to message any guy that you find interesting, attractive and compatible. If you aren’t sure, take a chance and message them. You’ll feel better if you haven’t any regrets and you never know who will turn out to be the best man of them all.

Should I message a guy before he messages me? If you’re interested, go for it.

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