How To Fix A Relationship

When we think of strong relationships, we often think of older couples. Those couples that have made it through life together and reached their old age side by side. However, it isn’t necessary to have been together for 20+ years to have a strong relationship. To keep your relationship strong, it’s important to address the most basic issues that jeopardize that very strength.

Building trust in a relationship is one of the best ways to keep your relationship strong.

One of the most fundamental issues facing couples is trust. We all know the importance trust plays in our relationships with our family members, our friends, and our mentors. Yet sometimes we ignore trust within our romantic relationships, especially once we have already cultivated trust. We assume that it will stay there, but often as relationships progress both partners do things that undermine that very trust. So what can we do to make sure that our relationships last and are kept strong?

The first step to maintaing trust in a relationship is honesty. If you haven’t been honest in the past with your partner, explain yourself and apologize. Then, begin again. Pledge to be honest and then follow-through with your promise. Ask your partner to be honest as well. Honesty in all relationships creates trust automatically. If you can believe that your partner is being honest, then you can feel comfortable trusting them. If you worry that your partner is lying to you or being manipulative, then it will be difficult to trust them. You will automatically find yourself worried, nervous, anxious, or uncomfortable. Knowing your partner is honest, allows you to trust them when they say that they care about you or share their thoughts with you.

Once you have established honesty in your relationship, you must work on your communication skills within the relationship. Relationships that are lacking in communication cause trust issues naturally because both partners become confused or unsure of the other’s intentions, feelings, and thoughts. Be open to discussing with one another what is working and what isn’t. Stay honest and stay open. When you feel that your partner is truly communicating with you, there is no need to worry about anything. If something is wrong, you know that your partner will talk with you about it. This security is the foundation for creating trust and maintaing it.

While it may be difficult to rebuild trust that was previously broken, it can be done. If you are looking to keep a healthy relationship strong, then you will want to use trust, honesty, and good communication skills. These skills are what lead to lasting, successful, happy relationships. If you haven’t been practicing these skills in your relationship, don’t despair. It’s never too late to try something new. Talk with your partner about changing the nature of your relationship to a more honest, open, trusting format. Share with them the changes that you are looking to make and explain how it will enhance the quality of your relationship. Remember, trust is not built overnight, but it can be shattered in minutes. Be patient if you are rebuilding trust that was previously lost. If you already have a trusting relationship, be patient as that trust grows and strengthens.

Do you sometimes want to scream, “I just want my ex back!” If so, you are not alone. After breaking up, hundreds of people find themselves wanting their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend back. It is a perfectly natural response. However, how should you handle these feelings? Should you try to win your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend back? Or should you move on with your life? By asking yourself the following questions, you will be able to determine the decision that is right for you.

Do I want them back because I am feeling lonely? Ask yourself this question, because it is essential. Often times, it is not your ex that you are missing; it is the feeling of having someone in your life. When you are in a relationship, you constantly have someone to talk to and keep you company. After the break up, you usually lose this. Thus, it is likely that you will be feeling lonely. After you have realized this is the source of wanting your ex back, it will be easier to move on.

Do I actually love them? This is another important question that you should ask yourself, although it can sometimes be difficult to answer. If you want them back because you truly care, then it is a good idea to try for a second chance. Winning your ex back requires time and effort, but if you love them and don’t at least try, you will regret it. But how can you get your ex back, exactly? The three best ways are to have confidence, improve your appearance, and make an attempt to talk to them again – even suggest hanging out if you are feeling brave enough.

By asking yourself these important questions, you will be able to figure out if “I just want my ex back” is truly how you feel.

Does my boyfriend want me back? This is the question that haunts hundreds of women every single day. Men can sometimes be difficult to read, and determining whether or not he still wants you may seem impossible. However, there are a number of ways to tell if he still has feelings for you. Paying attention to these signs will allow you to figure out whether or not he wants you back in his life!

Do you constantly catch him sneaking glances at you? Whether it is in the office or at the bar, if he is checking you out, it is a sign that he wants you back. But how can you find out if he is looking at you without making awkward eye contact? One way is to have your friends quickly glance over to see if he is staring at you. On the other hand, if you wouldn’t mind meeting his gaze, go ahead and see for yourself if he is ogling you or not.

Another key sign that he still has feelings for you is if he gets jealous of other guys. Does he act hostile toward the guy who is flirting with you? Does he interrupt your conversations with other men? Some women find it cute when guys get jealous, especially because it usually means that he wants to be the sole man in your life. Is he acting jealous? If so, then he most likely wants you back.

If your ex-boyfriend still sends you the occasional text message or calls you up to see how you are doing, he may want you back. Though you may think it is just out of friendship, it can sometimes be more. By sending you even the simplest message, it is a way to get back into your thoughts – and hopefully, your heart.

After being dumped, sometime you may find yourself in an even more complicated situation. Your ex acts like they want you back. Though you may be torn by your conflicting feelings and are unsure of what to do, do not worry. There are many ways in which you can figure out the answer to the question “Do my ex want me back?”

Do they seem to “bump” into you a lot? If so, then maybe it is not just a coincidence. They are probably trying to see you again – and hopefully, get the chance to talk to you. Though you may think it is merely ironic that you manage to see them nearly everywhere you go, they are most likely running into you on purpose – especially if it is always at places they know you visit often.

When you see them, do they try to impress you? If you happen to run into them at the park, do they try to show off their Frisbee skills? If you see them in the office, do they constantly talk about their new promotion? Any of these is a hint that they want you to take notice in them. By highlighting their attributes to you, they think that you will want them back as much as they want you.

Have they texted or called you? Even if it was just a simple text to ask how you were doing, there might be a bigger reason behind sending it. Maybe they still care about you and want to know how you are doing. If they try to keep the conversation going, it is likely that they want you back in their life.

By determining the answers to these questions, you will be able to answer the bigger question at hand – does my ex want me back?

“My ex dumped me and wants me back” is a phrase I am often approached with. People looking for advice in this complicated situation are often torn between their feelings for their ex and their own dignity – making the decision of what to do virtually impossible. However, with this advice, you will be able to figure out how you should handle the situation.

The first step is to determine why they want you back. Is it because they truly care about you and realized they missed you? Or is it because they just want to use you? If you think they just want you around again to toy with, do not go back to them – even if you think you are in love. Nobody deserves to be used like that. However, if you believe they are sincere, consider giving them a second chance.

Do I still care about my ex? If you realized – in the time of your breakup – that you prefer being single, then do not go back to them. Even if they want you and actually care about you, the relationship is not going to work if you have lost interest in them. On the other hand, if you still have feelings for them, think about what it would be like to be in a relationship with them again. Are you willing to take them back and try to make it work? If so, then go for it!

If your ex truly cares about you and you care about them in return, then try out the relationship again. I’m not saying you have to declare yourselves boyfriend and girlfriend, but going on a date together is a great way to discover if there is still potential between you.

With these tips, handling this normally complicated situation will not be so complicated anymore.

After a bad breakup, some people may find themselves asking a common question. How to get my ex back fast? Though this is by no means an easy question to answer, there are certain ways in which you can gain back your ex’s attention and hopefully – in the process – their affections.

The first step in getting your ex back is to figure out what exactly went wrong in the relationship. What was the cause of your breakup? Were you too clingy or too distant? Did you say something to upset them? Once you have determined the cause, you can start to figure out how you plan to fix the problem. However, what if you still do not know the cause of your breakup?

When it comes to breakups, communication is not always the greatest. With this said, it is not uncommon for a person to not know the true cause of their breakup. In order to figure it out, do not be afraid to talk to your ex. If you want to get them back, you are going to have to ask where you went wrong. Depending on their answer, you can determine if the problem can be fixed or not.

After you have finally figured out the cause of your breakup, you can move on to the next step. If your problem is fixable, apologize to your ex and show them that you want to make the relationship work! If you were clingy, then give them space; if you were distant, let them know you care about them.

With these helpful tips, the question of “how to get my ex back fast” is not unanswerable. By figuring out what went wrong, talking to them about it, and fixing the problem, you have a good chance at repairing the relationship and winning back your ex’s love.

This happens in EVERY relationship, but it’s important to know how to work through hurt feelings…

We’ve all made mistakes in our personal lives and that includes our romantic relationships. Sometimes we may take things too far and cause our partners considerable stress. What do you do when you’ve hurt your woman’s feelings? Is there a way that you can return things to the way they were before?

First off you have to respect your feelings and you have to understand the fact that there is a process.  Emotions are like a rail car.  They get started and its hard to stop them suddenly.  However the process itself is valuable and it’s well worth going through.  This, however, depends on your willingness to let yourself feel the full range of emotions.  Do not suppress how you feel!  Do not think that just pretending everything is all right is going to help you!

It all depends on your relationship and connection together. If you have a strong relationship then it will be much easier for you to talk through things and trust one another in the future. It also depends on what you’ve done. For those of you who have cheated, that’s a much bigger issue than simply saying something hurtful.

Sometimes men say things that are hurtful for a variety of reasons. If you’ve been verbally abusive at all, then you must apologize. These are usually the things that hurt women the most. If you’ve said something that has hurt her deeply then you need to apologize.  It’s not un-manly to admit you’re wrong.  If you care about your relationship, then you’ll do it.

After you apologize, you need to talk things through with her. Communication is of the utmost importance here in terms of restoring your relationship. Don’t let her feel alone and don’t let her feel as though you don’t care about her feelings. Show her that you care by being there for her and listening. Understand what you said that hurt her and why it hurt her.

Once you know what you’ve said and why it hurt her, you can explain to her why you said it. Maybe you were taking out your anger on her because of something that happened at work. Perhaps you over-reacted in a heated argument the two of you were having. Maybe you didn’t even mean to say what you said and you don’t actually agree with what you said. It doesn’t matter what it is. Apologize for having said it and let her know why.

Talking through the hurt, though you may need to give her a bit of space first, is the best way to restore your relationship.

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You’ve made a mistake and tried to make up for it.  But what do you do when it isn’t working and she’s mad?

We’ve all had those days where we’ve said something or done something that has upset our girlfriend. The difference is that some of us have been able to resolve the fight and some of us have ended up – dumped.

I know it feels bad, but one thing you have to remember is the principle of assertiveness.  The principle is based on valuing yourself first before you deal with others.  You have to base your reality on what is best for you, and to honor yourself first, then you can honor another.  Yes, your girlfriend is angry with you, but what about you?

This is not a call to selfishness.  You’ll find that wantonly trying to calm down her anger will make her lose respect for you and actually make things worse.  You see, your response to her anger is just as important as trying to calm her down.  It’s how you’ll be judged as a man.

So then, what do I do?  How should I handle this?

When your girlfriend gets upset with you – trust me, it’s a “when” and not an “if” – then you need to be prepared and knowledgeable about what to do.

First, you need to read her. Does she want you to go away and give her some space or is she looking for you to reach out and try to fix the situation? Always first try to fix things. If you don’t know what you did wrong, then ask her. Explain that you don’t know what happened, but you’d be willing to talk about it and you’d like to understand. Women want to feel understood, just like men, and if you convey that you care enough to try to understand how she is feeling…you’ll be in a much better position to resolve the situation.

That’s all well and good, but what if she gets too emotional?

Next address the problem. If you said something that hurt her feelings, then apologize. You shouldn’t have said it. Perhaps she’s over-reacting and you don’t want to withdraw what you said, but if it isn’t important then you should really withdraw it. You may find it difficult to apologize, but if you do you’ll be able to stop things from getting worse.

The most important thing is to remember that this will happen again if you don’t learn from the experience. If she told you that it upsets her when you are going to be late and you don’t text or call, then call or text next time you’re going to be late! Listen to her and she’ll listen to you. This is the best way to resolve arguments and make up with your girlfriend. It’s also the best way to develop a deep and meaningful relationship.

Sometimes we smother each other with our presence. For some people, this is what they want. They crave time together, both mentally, emotionally and physically. For some people, however, this is debilitating and leads to failed relationships…

We all have different needs and some of us need individual freedom. You can keep your relationship alive with individual freedom if you follow these simple guidelines.

Have one activity that is yours alone. Do not share everything with your partner. Sure, tell him or her where you’re going and what you’re doing. Just don’t take them along with you. It’s great to share similar interests and to participate in activities together. Just make sure that you have one activity that is only yours. It serves as a way for you to meet new people and to spend some much-needed time out on your own.

Don’t be afraid to ask for quiet space. Not everyone wants to spend time with their partner every second of every day. It’s okay to ask for some time alone so you can read a book, take a calming bath, or go on a tranquil walk. You may just need time alone with your thoughts. Those who are introverted need time to reflect and ponder without anyone in their presence. Let your partner know that sometimes you need to be alone and I’m sure that he or she will honor that.

One of the best ways that I’ve found to keep my relationship alive with individual freedom is by creating a space that is mine. Everyone knows to let me be in that room and I can go there to retreat and do my own thing. Then I re-emerge full of life and ready to spend every moment with my partner. By allowing me to spend time alone and refuel, it enables me to be fully present with my wife when we are together. Those moments become all the more special.

I would encourage you to remember that it’s okay to spend time alone as long as you aren’t hiding or running from your partner. Let yourself find individual freedom and keep your relationship alive!

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Do you argue constantly? Is nothing ever right in your home? Is nothing ever right in your relationship? Do you want to stop the constant bickering, but just can’t seem to find a way to do so? Look no further. Safe words will be your answer.

Arguments are actually a healthy part of any relationship.  It’s true.  I’ve seen many couples that have stayed together for years go through blistering arguments and then never break up.  In fact, these disagreements enhance and maximize their relationship in ways that couples who never argue could only dream about.  However, if you find yourself arguing too much, or feel that your relationship is in danger from too much discord, read on.

What is a safe word, you ask? Safe words are words that you create to keep yourself from taking things too far. You can have a word that keeps you from going too far. Your partner can have a word. Let’s say you choose “cream” and he chooses “lightning.” (It doesn’t really matter what the words are, just so long as they are unique enough that they will stand out and are also words that you’ll remember later on). Safe words for fighting will help you to repair your relationship.

Don’t be taken aback by how silly this sounds.  I first came up with the idea when watching a hypnotist work with a group of people.  He was helping a man with tremendous back pain relax, and he used a special word to get the man into a hypnotic state to ease his muscles.  I thought the same idea could be applied to relationships, and even though it may be weird to yell out “Jelly beans!” during a heated argument, it has a magical way of diffusing bickering.

As the argument begins to heat up, you feel yourself ready to yell out some threatening things and some hurtful things you know you’ll regret later. Right now you’re too upset to deal with this productively, so you say “lightning” and walk away.

Your partner will now know not to follow you. She will just let you be. Later, when things have settled down, the two of you can sit down. You can discuss politely and gently the issues. You can compromise and find ways to solve the problems at hand.  This is much better than getting in to a screaming match.  You do not want things to escalate emotionally where you will have no control over yourself.  You’ll say things you don’t really mean.

The safe words allow you both to stop in a crisis and agree to ignore things for a moment. To give yourselves time to breathe and to calm down. This is one of the most important tools that I try to share with couples. It’s a great way to solve things before they turn into something that is widely out of control.

If you aren’t sure, just give it a try.  Don’t feel embarrassed!  You would never guess how many couples actually use this technique to keep their relationships in working order.  Your safe word for fighting can be anything you want it to be.  My advice is to make it silly, so that it diffuses the situation in a jiffy.  The safe word for me and my wife is “Fahrvergnuegen,” a German word that sounds funny to both of us.  We actually laugh in the middle of heated debates.

It’s important, however, to remember that it only works if it is honored. If you or your partner continues to nag and yell at the other individual during the fighting, it will not work. You both must respect the safe words if they are to be used effectively and are to be used to restore the good nature of your relationship together.

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