How To Save Your Marriage

How can I save my marriage today?Save my marriage today!

If you find yourself asking this question then continue reading this article because I’m going to give you THREE principles that will help you to save your marriage today. Well, maybe not necessarily today.  It really depends on how troubled your marriage is, but these three principles will go a long way for you.

First, set some goals for your marriage. Think about the next week, three months, or twelve months. Start envisioning what your marriage will look like at those points in the future.  This will help you take the long view and develop a plan.

Will this really help me to save my marriage today? Yes.

Most people don’t set goals for themselves, even for important things like their own marriage!  Have you thought about where you want your marriage to be, even a week from now?

“So in order to save my marriage today, I need to have a plan?”

Absolutely.  Those that think ahead, win.

Next, I want to encourage you to keep an open mind when looking at your relationship problems. Marriage exists so that both people can grow from it.  Stop thinking just about yourself, and try to look at things from your partner’s perspective.  Are they enjoying the marriage?  Do they feel that they are moving ahead, trying out new things, and going out on all the adventures you two talked about in your most romantic of moments?  If not, start working on that!  Which leads me to my next principle…

Fix your communication skills. If your marriage is in need of saving, then chances are you suffer from having poor communication skills.  Don’t feel bad, a lot of people do. Open up the lines of communication by being honest with yourself and be sincere when you ask your partner questions. Really listen to what he or she says before responding.

Remember throughout this entire process to remember that there are no right answers but the ones that feel good.  Listen to  your heart.  Don’t ignore yourself. You need to become more confident, happier and improve your own quality of life. You directly influence your relationship and all of this “good” in your life will dramatically change your marriage. If you implement these changes, then you won’t need to ask “How do I save my marriage today?” because you’ll be saying “I’m so glad I was able to save my marriage today!”

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There are three guiding principles that can help you stop divorce.

The first principle is: Stop what you’re doing.

Yes, I mean exactly that.  Stop whatever is going on in your life and focus on your marriage.  At this point, there is nothing more important, and you have to start acting like your marriage is worth more than the whole world.  It’s worth more than your job, It’s everything at this point.

It sounds drastic, but divorce is even more drastic.  From a recent survey of recently divorced adults, 56% of them responded that they had regretted getting a divorce.  Most divorces happen in the heat of the moment, when negative emotions start flying high and both partners lose themselves in whatever problems drove them to start arguing.  This is why you have to drop everything.  It allows you to focus on the real problems, not the minutia.

Second Principle: Stop Talking and Listen

This is not just good advice for stopping a divorce, it’s just a generally good idea.  Part of the reason marriages break down is because of poor communication.  If something is the matter, you have to say why. You cannot just sit there and think that your spouse is going to figure everything out for you.

One of the big reasons divorces happen is because people say  things they don’t mean or get into arguments about minutia, but are really angry about something else.  Humans are illogical, emotional creatures.  It’s hard to be reasonable when emotions are running high.

Third Principle: Remember Yourself

I say this a lot, and many of my readers don’t like hearing this, but sometimes a marriage is over with and it’s better if both people exit gracefully.  Remember, the purpose of your relationships is to be happy, and to expand your own happiness.  Your spouse is thinking the same way.  If the relationship is just breaking you down emotionally, or if there’s been infidelity, it may be time to pack up shop.

Apply these three principles and you are already on the way to stopping divorce!

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If your marriage is in trouble, and you’re looking for a book on stopping a divorce, there’s plenty to choose from.

How can I stop my divorce - can my marriage be saved with a Book?

No one wants to go through a divorce.  Your emotions will be put through a shredder, and in the case of children, you will find that your once happy family life will be filled with pitfalls and pain.  No one wants to go down this road if there is something they can do about it.  Maybe you’re in the market for books that can stop a divorce and repair your damaged relationship?  There’s quite a few on the market, and each has their own take on marital problems.

“Breaking the Argument Cycle: How to Stop Arguing Without Therapy,” is a good book for couples who might find it financially stressing to see a professional therapist, and instead want easy, practical tip to take the rancor out of a relationship plagued with screaming matches.  The author, Sharon Rivkin, is a couple’s therapist who has condensed her experience with couples who often argue into a book.  Most of the time, your arguments with your spouse can be over trivial, meaningless things, where the core problem lies somewhere else.  This book has exercises and tips on how to cut through the trivialities and get straight to the core of the problem.  It doesn’t just give you anecdotal evidence, but real things you can try out with your spouse, and see if it affects your relationship in a positive way.

“Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in World That Pulls Us Apart,” By William J. Doherty PhD, is another great book for couples who feel their relationship is on the rocks.  Doherty suggests that marriage requires a lot of active effort by both parties.  Most relationships fail because many people feel that their relationship was complete once they tied the knot.  Marriage is a journey, not an endpoint, suggests Doherty, and it’s good advice, especially to those who feel their marriage might soon be ending.  Doherty advocates for “intentional marriage,” or marriage where both partners are active daily in strengthening their bond.  As always, practical advice is always better than just hearing about other people’s lives, and this book has many exercises that build intimacy and break barriers between partners.

If you really want to cement your relationship and say “Goodbye!” to the possibility of divorce, then you should try Barry Cooper’s “Stopping the Epidemic of Divorce: Practical steps to stop divorce in its tracks.”  The books is light yet deals with a very heavy subject, and its designed to help people avoid the pitfall of divorce.  It’s painful honesty and rapier wit will leave you chilled, but at the same time, give you hope that there is indeed a way you can patch things up and avoid divorce.  The market is of course filled with other books on avoiding divorce, but these ones will provide you with a good head start.

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You need to know how to stop divorce, and you need to know it now!  I can understand what it’s like being in full panic mode, and here are some tips you can use RIGHT NOW to stop divorce.

When a marriage is on the brink of divorce, we feel like we’re in a house of cards that’s collapsing all around us without any help in sight.  It’s all too easy to go straight into panic mode when you think your spouse is about to leave you a Dear John letter.  Don’t sit there and do nothing!  Your partner needs to know that you value the marriage to the point that you’d do anything to save it.  This is so important right now, that I want you to reread the last statement until it gets into  your soul.

Take a break from work, the kids, in laws, and everything else that you feel is an encumbrance on your marriage, and whisk yourself and your spouse away.  So often I see couples on the brink of divorce because of financial problems, family problems, illness, and other outside influences.  You cannot expect to repair and heal your relationship in a state of panic.  You might not have much money, but try to remove yourself from your old environment to see your relationship with fresh eyes.

Once you do, it’s time to take a deep breath.  You’ve done a lot to help yourself already.  Most people don’t make it this far.  What you need to do now is to be brutally honest with yourself and air out all of your grievances with your wife.  Whether it’s finances, or adultery, or any problem that you have in your relationship, you need to air your dirty laundry.  Silence is a relationship killer.  You’re essentially saying you don’t trust your partner with your thoughts or emotions.  That’s no way to stop divorce.

If you do have the money, I heartily recommend going on a marriage retreat.  Whisk yourself away to the mountains of Wyoming or touch dolphins in California.  You have to do whatever it takes at this point.  These retreats are great because you can sit down with a licensed therapist who can help you with your problems in a relaxed, stress free setting.  Do not wait to get this done, because the longer you procrastinate, the more likely you will not be able to stop your divorce.

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When looking for solutions to stop divorce you need to remain optimistic. Although it’s hard, it’s not impossible.Easy Solutions to Stop Divorce

The name of this article is possibly a bit misleading, as stopping a divorce is rarely if ever easy, but if you are pointed in the right direction it is markedly less difficult.  You want your marriage to stay together and you do not want to go through the life altering process of divorce.  Who would?  There are some steps you can take to protect your relationship, and you can get started right now!

Reinvent your relationship

Right now your relationship is plagued with negative cycles.  You come home tired from work and irritable because your boss hates you and your job is getting worse by the day.  Then your spouse brings up something small and you go off the rails.  You feel like your temper is always a short fuse.  You find yourself arguing about things that may not even matter.  You feel like your entire life is filled with strife.

If this is the case, it’s time to reinvent your life and relationship.  There is no need for things to continue on as they are now.  Change careers, change neighborhoods, change clothes, change whatever needs to be changed so that you can feel satisfied when you look at yourself in the mirror in the morning.  This way, you can look at yourself, and your spouse with entirely new eyes.

Take a break from the everyday

Another way to break the cycle of conflict is to break out of the old mold and go on vacation.  A couples retreat works wonders for many couples who feel they need to hit the reset button on their relationship.  In fact, going on a couples retreat is an easy solution to stop a divorce.  Picture yourself enjoying the view of the Rocky Mountains in Colorado or witnessing the view of a deep blue ocean in Hawaii.  There are many exotic locales you can go to so that you and your spouse forget all of your troubles.

Get serious

One of the simplest things you can do to stop a divorce is to set aside some time with your partner in a quiet setting and talk.  Talk like you’ve never talked before.  Communication breakdown is the greatest contributing factor in divorces.  Think of how many people sit in divorce court, wondering what happened when they just could’ve spoken up much earlier.

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As ridiculous as this sounds, there’s some truth to what you can learn from celebrity relationships…

Have you heard the latest gossip?

Another hyped-up celebrity break-up leads to another romance we BOTH know will never last.  It’s all over the tabloids!  Their relationship won’t last too much longer.

… Or will it?

Rumors are going around that Scarlett Johansson is dating another man. In fact, they were caught holding hands!

So who was it? George Clooney… Her ex, Ryan Reynolds… or maybe some other Hollywood celeb?

No. In fact, she was caught dating a New York City ad executive. This article reveals all of the juicy details.

That’s so cliche! Right?

Well, I’m going to tell you that their relationship seems to have not just one… but all FIVE of the qualities I look for in a perfect relationship.  We can learn a lot from celebrity relationships, and what we find out can save ours!

Here they are:

1) Equal Power

Yes, a Hollywood starlet MAY have more power than a New York City ad executive…but really, in this relationship, it has more to do with personal presence than money.

And in any relationship, this is CRUCIAL!

In the old days, “power” would mean where you’re employed and how much money you have.  In this case, it’s partly that, but it’s also about personal charisma and presence.

Make too much more – or less – than your partner, and your relationship may suffer. It’s not just me saying this, either, countless studies have been done on the “money factor” in relationships.

2) Equal Status

Same as above. If one partner controls more of the relationship than the other partner, fights are bound to happen. And they’re gonna be brutal!

Not only will you two be at each other’s throats… this difference in power and status leads to passive aggressive behavior. One partner will snipe at the other because they feel they cannot take their partner on in a head on match.

How can you even out power and status? Have “the talk.” No, not marriage. I’m talking about the “who pays for what” talk.

Because even if your partner has a whole lot more money… if you pick up the dinner tab once in awhile, your relationship will still be on an even footing.  You’re letting your partner know, “I can be in control sometimes too!”

3) Equal Love

If you love your partner more than they love you – or vica versa – you’re in for disaster.  I’d spend more time on this concept, but I’ve already covered it in GREAT depth in Relationship Rewind.  It’s a topic that really requires a whole chapter to talk about.  I call it “Switching”, then “Drifting” away. You can read all about it, when you order your copy.

4) Separate Lives

Ah hah! So… equality is the secret, eh?

Well, not so much.

As it turns out, you can’t share everything.  Who wants to see the same person every minute of every day.  Talk about boring.

So what should be yours – and yours, alone? Your career and your friends.

Sharing all your friends not only leads to awkward break ups… it can actually make you stay in a TERRIBLE relationship, just because you’re scared to leave for fear of what your friends might think.  This is why it’s good to have some parts of your life TOTALLY SEPARATE from that of your partner.

5) Separate Loves

What’s something else you should keep separate?

Your passions and your career.

Two actors shooting for stardom or two musicians in the same band SEEMS like a good idea. It’s very romantic.  It’s like something right out of a movie, right?

Reality isn’t so sweet.  The reason why? We defend our egos, ourselves and the things we love with a fierceness otherwise not seen in our daily lives.

Picture this: Your partner hits it big! They’re the next Al Pacino or Angelina Jolie!

But you’re still struggling along at local theaters and doing unpaid work.  You don’t think you’ll ever escape from your office cubicle, or live your dream of being a big bank executive.

Don’t you think you’d be jealous?

Don’t you think you’d undermine their success?

Listen: You may say you’d be supportive now, but studies – and my own, personal experience – say otherwise.  Be honest.

My suggestion: Find someone who has their own vision in life. Then try to help each other succeed.  Always have your own ideas, and your own goals though.  Your partner is just their to help you.

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Have A Happy Relationship,

– Ryan

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When stopping divorce is your goal, you’ve got to act fast.  The longer you wait, the worse it can get.

What should you do if your goal is stopping your divorce?  It may be too late, but there is a way out.

You need to gain some clarity.  If divorce seems imminent, then you are probably extremely stressed and think that everything is lost.

Calm yourself.  It’s not.  Some couples have gone to the brink of divorce and have come back to be better, stronger couples.  It’s really a wonder, let me tell you.  They did not get their by going into a panic, though, so the first step is to breathe!

Stopping divorce is your biggest priority because you have become a slave to this situation. It’s all you can think about.

Let’s be objective.  Why are you thinking about divorce?  Is it you, or is it your spouse?  Why is this?  Are you two not making love as much as you used to, if at all?  Are you arguing constantly?  What are you arguing about?  Do you find yourself not looking forward to seeing your spouse?

Part of stopping divorce is knowing exactly what is going on with you emotionally, and the state of your relationship.  Don’t leave it up to chance, really examine the root of the problem.

Do you even know?

There is always this hope in these situations.  Many people hope that things will magically turn around. That you just need time. Time can help, but only if you make changes. You are the one that will change your circumstances.  Then as time goes on, your partner can see these changes in action and your relationship can improve.

It is crucial that you realize where you truly are at in your relationship and what you need to do.

Learn some problem-solving techniques. Stopping divorce is just problem-solving when you think about it.

I know for myself that I read a couple of books on problem-solving techniques and this changed my life considerably.  Go to your local library, you can get many great titles for free.  I learned how to approach problems in a very different way.

I am now more objective, more rational and use a lot more logic. I stopped getting so emotionally connected to problems and being so reactive to them.  I stopped having so many reactionary fights with my spouse.  Through my new more logical mindset, I found out that most of my problems were completely fixable.  I found objectivity and understanding. I believe stopping divorce has to do with how you mentally approach difficulties and problems.

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Finding yourself stuck in a sexless marriage means it’s time to find an escape…Sexless marriage - What to do if you're stuck in one

I think what surprised me when I started researching sexless relationships and sexless marriages was finding out that so many others suffer from this problem.

Being stuck in a sexless marriage is surprisingly common.

There’s one group I found online, where over 22,000 people are members. They all claim to be in a sexless marriage and mention that it’s probably the most painful and most difficult thing in their life.

It’s unbelievable how big an issue it is and this is only really scratching the surface. There are all these people stuck in a sexless marriage without a real solution.

For the vast majority of people stuck in a sexless marriage, both partners feel the pain and the hurt. It isn’t just one. Both people are affected.

It goes both ways.

One partner suffers because they feel rejected, unattractive, and worthless, and the other partner suffers because they don’t feel understood, they feel pressured and are not sure what to do with themselves.

I may say that the most common strategy used in a sexless marriage is what’s called The Talk; this is where you discuss how you feel with your partner.

I would also say it’s one of the worst strategies in terms of results.

The most important thing to realize is that it’s not necessarily your partners fault. You need to shock yourself out of being stuck in a sexless marriage. Big change is needed.

You may think they’re doing it to spite you or to get at you. Most of the time, this isn’t true. Your partner isn’t deliberately withholding sex. Instead, they are becoming uninterested in sex or perhaps feel that your sexual encounters do not satisfy their needs. Changing the way you think about your partner is the first change that you need to make in order to keep from being stuck in a sexless relationship.

It isn’t your partner’s fault. Usually, it’s something that they are not aware of, that they’re struggling to control. The reality of being stuck in a sexless marriage is that your partner might not be able to just fix their sexual desire.

So to begin with, take their side in this difficulty and give them a lot of understanding. Help take the pressure off of them, because as you explore different options, you’ll begin to move forward from having a sexless marriage to passionate sex and delicate intimacy.

If you want to make a true change then your partner is going to have to be open. They won’t be able to talk about their feelings or reveal their thoughts if the atmosphere is one of high-pressure and interrogative tendencies.

Instead, make the atmosphere a mutual, friendly, supportive and encouraging one. To get out of being suck in a sexless marriage, both of you need to want to fix it.

Often they have a problem that they don’t even know about. Or perhaps they do but they don’t know what to do about it. Don’t stay stuck in a sexless marriage because you make your partner feel embarrassed.

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Feeling trapped in a sexless marriage isn’t fun. It’s difficult for both people involved and it’s something that needs to be fixed immediately.

Feeling trapped is such a disempowering emotion. Nothing can prepare you for being trapped in a sexless marriage.  It’s most certainly not what you signed up for when you exchanged wedding vows.  Don’t worry, statistics show that there are millions upon millions of Americans experiencing sexless marriage problems.  They can be solved.

What is it like to be trapped in a sexless marriage?

It feels as though you are a slave and there is no escape. However, making the change from being trapped in a sexless marriage to having a healthy sex-filled marriage is possible. You just have to work at it.  How big a deal is this? Is it worth breaking up with someone for better?  Should you just scrap your marriage and try to move on to someone that will satisfy you?

Do not cheat.  That would be a huge mistake.

A marriage without a healthy sex life is like a game of soccer without a soccer ball. A relationship where both individuals are trapped in a sexless marriage means that the relationship can never be quite right.

I highly recommend a technique called EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique.  It’s something I’ve recommended to couples in your predicament and it has an extremely high rate of success.  The emotional freedom technique is to meditate and concentrate on a single feeling.  Then, scream the feeling out.  Some psychologists have people beat pillows or use bats to release their primal feelings so that your emotions can rush to the surface.

This will help you to release you from that trapped feeling so you can start to take action. Ultimately, the feeling of being trapped is an illusion. You can deal with this situation, there are options, you can move on and you can fix things but not while you feel hopelessly trapped. The only prison that you have around you is your own mind. It’s created by you and it can be destroyed by you.

The first month is the worst.  It’s almost like dieting.

You must be willing to put in the work. Don’t be afraid of that initial period where everything will be difficult.. Face up to it, deal with it, and get through it.

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Marriage is a fantastic journey, a nourishing spiritual experience that you are now on.  It has its ups and it has its downs.  Here are some tips for surviving your marriage you can take with you for the rest of your life. 

One of the things that’s going to help you the most to deal with problems during marriage is improving your communication skills.

Probably one of the things that cause the most difficulties and conflicts is simply communication, not being a great communicator or be able to express self the way you want, being an excellent listener or generally just having high enough social skills to be able to make the most of communication.

Want a great marriage? Invest everything you can in your communication skills.  If you cannot communicate well, then your marriage is on the rocks from the start.

This really is what empowers you to deal with difficulties, goes through tough times and to move forward and I’m going to give you a couple of tips for improving your communication skills. Your marriage depends on the best communication skills imaginable.

The first one is to take note if you’ve got any sort of shyness or social anxiety, anything that inhibits you or anything that prevents you from talking the way you want, acting the way you want, being who you want to be. You might think now you are in a marriage you can stop working on yourself. Wrong. That’s the way to divorceville.

Look to remove those using anxiety reduction techniques of which these are many around and this will help you to express yourself the way you want with no inhibition. Get rid of anxiety and have a happier marriage.

Honest communication and positive assertiveness are key ingredients to a great marriage!

You not being honest about how you feel or you want or being scared to offend and assertiveness is standing up for yourself and being very clear with what you want, who you are, not being a walked over and also not using aggressive or manipulative techniques to get your way.

Assertiveness is to try being real, honesty is about being extremely honest and the third thing you can do that will dramatically boost your communication skills is to recon, understanding women better.

So just improving your study of women’s psychology, what makes women different, what makes them tick and understanding how there’s so many differences between men and women with their psychology, with their priorities and values. The better grasp you have of these, that better you can do.

Study everything you can on understanding exactly what is important to women and how you can tick those boxes of having an amazing marriage. The quality of your marriage depends on many things. And lots of things happen that are outside of your control.

What makes an excellent marriage?

What makes an excellent marriage though, is how you deal with difficulties. Marriage-strength isn’t about a perfect world it’s about having systems to work through challenges successfully.

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