Sometimes men wonder whether they should be chivalrous or not. Within the American culture, bad boys are often the ones who get the girl. It isn’t the good guy even though he is the obvious best choice. Why is that? You may be wondering, well, should I be chivalrous?
In the end, it always pays to be chivalrous. You do have to strike a balance. You don’t want to be a door mat, but treating a woman like an inanimate object will get you nowhere fast. It is true that women may look for a bad boy sometimes, they never end up with the bad boy. Besides, bad boys are allowed to be chivalrous. That’s the best combination. You can still be rough around the edges, live life on the wild side, and remain a chivalrous man.
What does chivalry entail?
Hmm….Well, it’s the classic southern mannerisms. The “Yes, ma’am” “Yes, sir” to those who are much older than you are or in positions of great authority. Opening the door for every woman. Paying for the women’s meal on dates. Chivalry is actually about being noble, about caring for those around you and accepting your place in society. It goes all the way back to the knights of Europe. Knights held a special station in society, and it warranted that they knew special mannerisms.
The only word of caution is your level of chivalry. Sometimes men take chivalry to a point where they are actually asking the woman to be completely dependent on them. In today’s society, many women now value their independence and will feel insulted if you act like they are fragile. Plus, don’t fawn over your date. She’s a person and she wants to be treated like one.
The key is to do every action out of love and out of respect. You don’t need to hold her hand and escort her into the diner, that suggests she can’t get in by herself. However, opening her door for her, suggests kindness and respect. It’s all in the details. Make sure that you don’t dampen her sense of independence.
Chivalry is not dead. Use it to your advantage. She may not actually be expecting you to be chivalrous in the first place, as many men are not. Women may not ask for it, but they love it when their man is chivalrous. If you watch the way women swoon over men who practice it, you’ll see what all of the fuss is about. It will greatly influence the kind of women you attract. Try it out and you’ll see what I mean.
So should I be chivalrous? Yes, absolutely.
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