So, you’ve slept with your ex and you really didn’t mean to? Well, let’s see if that’s true.
Sometimes we make mistakes and sometimes they include a special someone from our past: an ex. If you slip up and sleep with your ex, what does it mean and what should you do about it?
First, stop it. Don’t sleep with him or her again. It’s never just about sex when an ex is involved. There are feelings at stake, often complex ones, regardless of whether you are the dumper or the dumpee.
You do not want your ex to use your sleeping together as emotional blackmail. You’re human. Your emotions and your needs caused you to sleep with your ex. You probably wanted things to go back to the way they were. You wanted the comfort and safety of being in a relationship.
I feel used and I feel abused….
Prevent it. If you can, make sure it doesn’t happen! If it’s already happened, prevent it from happening again. Once again, stop it! The more you sleep with them the more your body will train itself to respond to that other person romantically. That’s not what you want to have happen. It’ll lead down a long dark road.
I feel so confused right now.
Completely understandable. Give yourself a break. You are completely human. No one is perfect and you have no idea how many emails I get with people that have done the exact same thing you have. If you’re not intent on rekindling the romance with your ex, then you just need to cut it off at the bud and move on.
Try to work through your feelings and why you chose to sleep with your ex. If you were the one who was dumped to begin with, you may be trying to win your ex back. Not only is this dangerous, but it won’t happen. There’s a reason that the two of you broke up and it should stay that way.
Maybe this is what happens when you try to have a friendship together. If this is true, then lose the friendship. Say goodbye and let your ex fade from your life. Keeping him or her around is only going to harm you if you continue to slip up and sleep with them.
Give yourself a break and try not to beat yourself up for making this mistake, but remember that it doesn’t need to happen again. Look at the feelings that may have come up and sort through them. Process them and allow yourself to heal. Then move on and make sure it doesn’t happen again. Tell your ex how you feel and leave it at that.
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