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Question: I want to win back my wife. We’ve been really distant lately and I want her to know that she’s still the person I want to be with. I just worry that she won’t listen. I worry that I’ve lost her. I’m pretty stubborn and I don’t know what to say, I have a hard time saying anything. What should I do?

Answer: When you are looking at finding ways to “win back my wife,” I want you to consider what you haven’t been doing.

Have you been complimenting her? I don’t mean fake compliments. I mean real, honest, genuine compliments. Find something compelling to say and say it. It will make her feel good and remind her that you’re still there. You still find her attractive and you still love all of her idiosyncrasies as well as her personality.

Another thing that I would ask you to look at, is the time you spend together. This is crucial. You may need to spend more time with her. Maybe you’re always off doing your own thing or you’re involved in a lot of outside activities. Find a way to make her feel special. Find a way to make her feel loved.

However, you may be spending too much time with her. Have you given her space to breathe? To pursue her own interests? It’s important that you allow her to do her own thing as well. It’s good for couples to have some activities that they do on their own. It’s healthy for you to spend time apart as well as together. Don’t suffocate her or she will be less likely to stay.

Regardless of what choices you need to make and what behaviors you need to alter, it’s important that you do so with her in mind. Listen to what she’s asking for and give it to her.

I get a lot of questions about ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends. Everyone wants to know how to win an ex-boyfriend back.

They miss the companionship and most importantly, they miss that particular person. They aren’t interested in finding a new love, they just want the one that they already had.  This is perfectly human!  Don’t feel bad if you find yourself in this position.

If this is you, do not despair. This article will give you a few basic ideas about how to win an ex-boyfriend back without begging. Whatever you do, don’t beg. Men do not find that attractive. They will not want to come back. And if they do come back…it might not be for reasons that you would like.  To be honest, some men will not think twice to use a woman for physical comfort, so remember to maintain your self respect.

Do some self reflection!

First, look at why they left. Do you know? If you know why your partner left you then you need to figure out how to change that aspect of yourself. If it isn’t something that you want to change, then you shouldn’t be pursuing this relationship. Maybe they hated the way you always argued.  Are you an argumentative person?  Be honest, because if you don’t change the problem then there is no way you can win an ex-boyfriend back.

Second, discover who you are.  Men love confident women.  Period.  Confidence is sexy in their eyes. I’m not asking you to be arrogant, to think of yourself as the “Queen Bee” or “God’s gift to the world.” I’m asking that you find yourself attractive, you appreciate some of your talents, and you learn to love yourself. Walk with purpose. Create goals for yourself and follow them. Step outside of your comfort zone and increase your boundaries.  Believe me, he’ll react.

Third, work on your appearance if necessary. I know that you don’t want to hear this and no one does, but it may be one reason why your partner left you. Did you stop going to the gym and keeping up your appearance?  Men start getting the wandering eye when their partner starts to let themselves go.  It’s a harsh truth.

You’ve got your inner game in line, now what next?

Lastly, find ways to occasionally bump into him without making it look as though you tried. Don’t bump into him often, but once a month would be good. You don’t want o appear as if you are stalking him.  Nothing scares a guy off more than an obsessive girl. Let him see what he’s been missing without asking for him back. Then, watch him come crawling back to you. You may find, that after all this time and self-discovery, he isn’t as great as you previously thought. You may discover another man that you’d rather have. Either way, you’ll find yourself with more options.

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I want to stop my divorce. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Just saying it won’t work though, you’ve got to do a lot of work to save your marriage…

There are very few magic salves to fix a marriage.  There are some guidelines though.  Think about the following when you’re considering what to do next.  My advice comes from talking with people about their marital problems.  The same problems come up more often than you might think.

1. Admit when you’re wrong. 

Your partner wants to know when you’ve messed up and they want you to acknowledge it. I know that your partner has made mistakes and they need to acknowledge those as well. Still, if you refuse to own up to your mistakes, you will send the relationship spiraling into disaster and divorce. It is a sign a maturity to admit when you’re wrong and your partner will appreciate that.  Swallow your ego, and just do it!

2. Compromise. Compromise. Compromise.

This is something that we hear all the time but we ignore. It’s important to remember that compromising is necessary. It’s the only way that both of you can be happy. And marriage is all about compromise.  If you really want to know how to stop your divorce and save your marriage, you must learn when to bend and when to be firm.  If your spouse is making demands of you and feels that you are not listening, stop for a second, maybe they’re right.

3. Listen

In a successful marriage, both partners listen to one another. They care about one another and they respect one another, but most importantly, they LISTEN. If you aren’t listening to your partner, then it’s no surprise that divorce is on the table. Start listening to what your partner wants and to what their needs are. Then they can listen to you. Together you can address the real problems by first knowing what they are and then by understanding how you both feel about them.

With these three tips actively in place, you’ll notice a dramatic difference in your relationship. I know, compromising and listening sound like advice from a self help book.  But, with all of the couples I’ve helped over the years who were begging me for advice on how to stop their divorce and save their marriage, it is all easily applicable to real life.  If you still need help, consider going to couples therapy. Don’t give up on your marriage!

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You might be wondering the best course of action after you’ve been cheated on…

Here’s a question I got from one of my readers.  Read it through real quick and think about it: My girlfriend cheated on me and I’m not sure what to do. I love her and I thought that she was going to be the mother of my children… I mean, we really cared about each other. Or so I thought. I’m just worried that if I’m with her now then she may be unfaithful in the future. Should I stay with her? She says she’s sorry but she didn’t just kiss someone else, she slept with someone else!

Here was my reply to him:

No. I think you should get out of the relationship. That doesn’t mean you can’t forgive her, but you can’t give her another chance to break your heart.

What do you do if you think, “My girlfriend cheated on me!”  I know, the first think you might do is make excuses for her.  Maybe she was drunk, maybe it meant nothing? Is this what she has been telling you? The thing is, you haven’t made a commitment to this woman. She is still just your girlfriend. Therefore, you don’t need to think about the fact that you’ve been married X amount of years or you have children. It’s just about your current relationship together, nothing else.

Some relationships are more serious than others.  I don’t know how long you two were together exactly, or if you have any children.  That could definitely complicate things.  If not, you need to move on and find a new girlfriend.  It’s not that hard, and if you peruse this site, you’ll easily find one.  If things are serious, then you might have to figure a way to work it out with her.  You might have to be nosy so that she doesn’t cheat on you again.  Was it just a fling, or did she get back with an old boyfriend?  If so, you may just need to dump her, and if there are kids, you might have to work something out.

When your girlfriend cheats on you, it’s her breaking up the relationship, not you.  Do not blame yourself, and don’t overreact.  She clearly wasn’t the woman that was going to bear your children.  Or at least, she doesn’t feel the same way you do.  More than enough reason to move on.

Regardless of what you decide to do, remember that this shouldn’t be about her. She made the mistake. Make it about you. Listen to your needs and follow through with them.

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Are you spending almost every day fighting with your girlfriend? If so, this isn’t healthy and you need to take action. What kind of action you take depends on how you feel. Do you like/love your girlfriend and want to stay with her? Or do you find yourself trying to care but not really caring?

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There is always the fun of making up.

1. I like/love my girlfriend and I want to stay with her.

-> Then you need to show it. Fighting with your girlfriend isn’t going to help things. It isn’t going to solve anything. It will, however, ruin your relationship. Try talking calmly and rationally with one another. Really listen to what your girlfriend is saying and she will really listen to you. Work to find a compromise. If after several days you cannot come together, then you may need to look for a good couples psychologist. Couples therapists are wonderful because it allows an objective person to come in, without any bias, and listen to you. Then the therapist can help you both to see both sides and find a way to solve things that works for BOTH of you. Finding a way to satisfy both parties is important. It’s the only way to save your relationship.

2. I try to act like I care, but I really don’t.

-> It’s time to move on. Get out of that relationship. It isn’t fair to your girlfriend and it isn’t fair to you. You’re fighting when you shouldn’t even be together. Perhaps you can still be friends or maybe it just isn’t going to happen. Either way, it’s okay. Just know that you need to do your thing and take care of yourself. Be nice when you break up with her, but don’t stay with her because you feel like you have to. You don’t. And it isn’t fair to either of you.