The key to knowing how to prevent divorce is about having the right focus. And when you are staring divorce in the face, losing focus is all too easy.
Preventing a divorce is about acting quickly. It’s about recognizing the problem and going at it full steam ahead. There’s no more time to procrastinate. You need actionable advice and you need it now. Well, I’m here for you, to give you some tips that will get you started in figuring out what to do in this situation. Do not get me wrong, some of my advice is difficult to achieve and divorce may be the end result of your struggle, but don’t worry, there’s always a silver lining.
You have to look at your life objectively and remove anything that is keeping you and your spouse from each other. Stress has a funny way of leaking into every aspect of our lives. A spouse can go to work every day and drink in the frustration and anger of their job, only to let it spill out like red hot lava when they come home. So many marriages are like this. It breaks my heart to read emails about them.
If you hate your job, quit it. If your spouse hates their job and lets their frustration and anger out on you, devise a way to switch. You cannot repair the situation and repair your relationship if the problem still lingers. Even if you have to go without that next brand new car or a vacation, your relationship is so much more than what money can buy.
Okay, maybe you’re stuck in your job. Maybe you cannot relive the stress of daily living that way. That’s fine. What about a couple’s retreat? You could treat it like a vacation. Couple’s retreats are great ways to relieve stress and spend some time reacquainting yourself with your spouse. If you want to prevent a divorce, then rediscover your spouse and learn all about why you fell in love with them in the first place.
No one knows your relationship better than you, but if infidelity is the culprit, then it may be a good idea to leave the relationship. It’s hard to rebuild a relationship when infidelity has reared its ugly head. In many cases, trust can never be restored, and you have to simply move on. It’s painful, but trying to save a marriage not worth saving is disastrous for both individuals.