Unhealthy Relationships

If your marriage isn’t working, it can be helpful to try various couples therapy techniques. 

One of the first things to identify is the cycle that you are currently wrapped up in. This can be a difficult and time-consuming process, which is one reason why finding a couples therapist may be the necessary next step.

Identifying the cycle itself is a complex process. Some couples find themselves in a vicious cycle of blame. One person chooses to go out to eat a few times a week spending unnecessary money when things are tight. That person may feel that they need that time to get away and de-stress, while the other only sees it as a loss of money. Perhaps this is the beginning of the ‘blame cycle’ for this couple and once this fight begins, the two will blame each other for dozens of other transgressions. This is what needs to stop if your marriage is to survive and then thrive.

You must stop the cycle.

A talented and competent couples therapist can help you identify the cycle and work with you to develop a plan to cripple the cycle. Once crippled, the cycle will head towards it’s own demise. If you cannot afford a couples therapist (though check with your insurance because it may be more affordable than you think) then you may wish to attempt to identify and stop the cycle yourself.

To stop the cycle:

  1. Look at why you get upset, sad, jealous, and/or frustrated. Identify the emotional response that you are having and look for the WHY.
  2. Determine what can be done about the WHY. Is there a behavior that needs to be stopped? What are you doing and what is your partner doing? Is it something that is outside of your relationship but is wreaking havoc in your relationship because of the way you feel? What could be a suitable alternative? Spend some time in thoughtful self-reflection and then discuss this WITH your partner. Two perspectives and perceptions are always better than one.
  3. Believe that things can change. If you don’t believe things can get better, you won’t see results. Trust yourself and trust your partner.

With these couples therapy techniques, you can begin to locate your problems within your marriage and actively work to fix them. Keep in mind that a caring, supportive, and understanding professional is really the best person to guide you through these couples therapy techniques. If you can afford it and if you are both willing, it would be best to let a professional embark on this journey with you.

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Relationship issues are difficult to deal with. They can ruin your life if left untreated. One of the cornerstones of happiness is the state of one’s relationships. Take care of yours. 

Relationship Issues
Cognitive behavioral therapy is one of the best ways to solve relationship issues.

I want to encourage you to solve your relationship issues by using cognitive behavior therapy, also known as CBT. CBT offers ways to understand your relationship issues and find solutions for them.

What CBT is about? It doesn’t sound like something that could actually help my relationship issues. I understand that you may feel hesitant to enter therapy to deal with your relationship issues, but it really is one of the best ways to clearly identify the problems and resolve them. You are always free to leave whenever you like, but I promise – it will do wonders for your personal life.

So what is CBT about? It’s about changing your thinking patterns into something more positive. You can fix your relationship issues by starting with your mind. It helps you to change the way that you respond to different things, building more awareness about the various associations that you have. It helps you find new ways of thinking about your problems that make you both happier and stronger.

Different people often respond in different ways to the same events. This is where CBT is helpful. It looks at the individual reasons for your responses. You are not factored into a formula, but instead addresses as an individual.

In your relationship, you may be responding to things negatively. You need to find ways to respond positively. CBT can help you determine why you are responding negatively and how you might respond positively. Other people who are going through similar things may respond to a situation with humor or consider it an avenue for personal growth. This is what CBT is all about. CBT is about finding the most healthy and most powerful ways to think about events in your life that previously you may have responded to negatively.CBT helps you to analyze your life and accept your surroundings, your behavior and your actions. It helps you to work with these three facets and discover hidden positives.

It is important to note, however, that CBT is not a method that you can administer on your own. It requires a trained professional to spend time with you, helping you to work through your thoughts and process your emotions. Because CBT looks at your thought patterns, it is difficult for you to do alone. You cannot adequately address your own thought patterns and see your thoughts objectively. Find a therapist who you feel comfortable with and are able to share your intimate thoughts. Together, you will be able to work through the issues surrounding your relationship and your life.

At the end of therapy, you’ll see yourself as more of an optimistic person who can positively frame events in his or her life.  You’ll also notice that your relationship issues are fading away. By working to better understand your patterns of thinking, you’ll grow as an individual and create better relationships in the future. Just because you’ve lived with various patterns of thinking doesn’t mean that you must continue living with them. Find a therapist today who specializes in cognitive behavioral treatment (CBT), put in the hard work, and watch as your life begins to reflect a happier you!

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So many people write to me and talk to me about relationship doubts. It’s normal to have doubts now and again, but be sure that you’re not thinking about larger problems.

Dealing with relationship doubts can be a real pain.

When you first begin experiencing relationship doubts, then it’s time you begin to reflect on what is making you think that in the first place.  Do you wonder where the relationship is heading?  Do you wonder if it will ever turn into something serious?  Do you wonder if choosing someone else may have been better?

These relationship doubts could be a forewarning of major problems to come later on.  Take them seriously, but also don’t overreact.

If you don’t really like who you’re with, now is the time to be honest about it.  Having doubts is fine, and it might be telling you something: you’re not being really honest with yourself.  Maybe when you first started dating everything was fun, but now you feel that life has gotten stuck in a rut?

If you feel that you are having doubts about the relationship, but you still love your partner, then you should work to fix your problems. There are a variety of different ideas to saving a relationship.  You could try couple’s therapy if you’re serious, or maybe spice it up in the bedroom. Just make sure that you want to save your relationship first. If you’ve been a relationship for the past four weeks and you’re already having problems – do you think this person is really the right match for you?

It may simply be best to leave.  It sounds like hard advice to listen to.

So to determine what you should do, I recommend that you create a “Deal Breakers List.” Write down your top ten deal breakers. Then compare your relationship to your list.

Opposites do attract, but sometimes you can be incompatible with your partner.  If you’re a thrill seeker, always looking for the next adrenaline pumping adventure, then having someone grounded might be good, occasionally, but you won’t be getting your fix for new adventure.

Don’t worry, most relationship doubts are not all that serious and they dissipate within a few weeks.  It’s only when these doubts turn into real concerns, that we really consider breaking up.

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When you’re dealing with a relationship break-up, it can feel like the world has ended and there is no future.  I’m here to tell you, that’s not true.

There’s so much generic advice out there about how to survive a relationship break-up, that I want to finally put an end to the debate.  I’ve helped couples date, fall in love, and even marry, but I’m also all too familiar with the darker side of dating, when people break up and feel they no longer want to be together.  As much as I would like dating to be all about fun and games, this is a serious issue that needs to be addressed.

The most important thing to remember is that this is not the end of the world.  I know, everything was magic.  You and your partner were going to conquer the world together.  You were building attraction and learning all about each other, and now the journey is over.  Well here are some things to remember:

A lot of couples get back together or enter into less formal yet equally romantic relationships.  You need to value yourself and tell yourself that this is the journey of life and that you are going to find the right match.  Just because you breakup now does not mean that you will never get back together again.  I have all sorts of articles on how to get your ex back, so if you really think breaking up was a mistake, read through them.

Second, you need to fill your day with something new.  You cannot sit at home in the dark and brood about the breakup.  The best way to survive a relationship breakup is to remember that the beat goes on, whether you like it or not.  Tomorrow will come, so why not enjoy it instead of making it torture?

Go jet skiing or hang gliding!  Try out a new game or go to the gym.  There are thousands of activities that can fill your day, and new experiences that do not require a girlfriend or boyfriend to do.  Part of surviving a breakup is saying to yourself, “I’m better than what the other person thought.  They are missing out on me.”

If reinventing yourself doesn’t work, and if taking your mind off the pain doesn’t work, then I suggest you be honest with yourself and try  to repair things with your boyfriend or girlfriend.  It’s possible and it’s a lot easier than you might think,

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Is your relationship about to end?  Do you feel anxious about the future?  If you are worried about relationship endings and worried about your own, here’s some advice.  

You may wonder if your relationship is over.  Sometimes it feels like we could just hang on a little longer, but that’s not necessarily true.  When a relationship ends, it feels like everything is up in the air and the future is unclear.  It’s absolutely important that when we feel a relationship is ending to keep logical.

Here are four key points to consider if you think your relationship is ending. These are danger signs for your relationship.

The first is constant fighting and arguing. That is one common sign that a relationship is ending.  In fact, I’d say that this is a surefire sign.This is not healthy. I’m not talking about minor disagreements. Those are bound to happen and will continue to happen. However, if you’re always having disagreements and conflicts then there is a problem.

The second thing is a sense of distance between the two of you. If you feel some sort of disconnect from your partner then you need to take notice. Do you feel you cannot talk to them as intimately as you used to?  Communication is important in a relationship and if the two of you feel that you are on opposite ends of the world, you want to address these feelings. Or you may find that you have a physical gap and both want different things in terms of intimacy.

Next is cheating. Any kind of infidelity or even just looking elsewhere for a deep, emotional connection is a bad sign.  If your partner has cheated on you then you need to head straight for the exit.  Once a cheater, always a cheater.  Sometimes there are extenuating circumstances but the best way to not let it happen again is to close the door and kill the possibility forever.

The fourth is lack of enjoyment. This is a pretty easy aspect to notice about a relationship. You’re bored, they are sexually frustrated and you don’t look forward to spending time together. This can often be a factor if you think your relationship is ending.

If you notice these signs in your relationship it’s important that you act immediately. Don’t panic. “My relationship is ending!” It doesn’t have to. Relationships don’t heal themselves, but you can heal yours if you are willing to put in the effort. Think of your relationship as an investment and begin investing heavily now.

So here’s what I suggest you do. First, figure out what’s going on and create a game plan. Whether you want the relationship to end or you want to save it, you need to create a plan. Then follow it. The worst feeling is repeating the same problems over and over again. Talk openly and honestly with your partner and evaluate your feelings together.

If you are worried that your relationship is ending, make sure you take action immediately. It’s alway best to prevent the ending then try to get back together after you’ve already broken up.

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Have you been looking to find love?

So many people are looking to find the love of their life but cannot seem to find anyone who is interested. Or they cannot find anyone that they are interested in. Why is this?

find loveThere are two reasons why this happens.

1 – Where do you spend your time? Many people stay at home or hang out with the same group of friends and family. When you spend all of your time with people you already know, you do not have the opportunity to meet new people.

I’m not saying that you should give up spending time with your friends and family. You should definitely continue to be an active part of their lives and enjoy yourself by spending time with them. I’m merely asking that you find some time to spend in a place where you don’t know anyone and have the opportunity to meet new people.

Do you love rock climbing or running? Join an outdoors club or a running club. You can go to www.meetup.com and search groups that interest you.

Already so busy that you don’t have time to join a new group or go to a variety of social events? Try speed dating. Simply googling “speed dating” will help you find services in your area. This can be a quick way to meet others and may turn into a real relationship if you find the right somebody.

2 – How do you feel about yourself? The people who find love usually like themselves. You don’t need to love yourself and you shouldn’t be overly arrogant either but you can’t hate yourself. If you hate yourself, you have less to offer. The person who loves themselves or likes themselves will have a much better chance at finding love.

If you’re looking to like yourself more and begin the process towards self-love then you may want to see a psychologist. They can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses, then work with you to cultivate your love towards yourself by strengthening your weaknesses and recognizing your strengths.

Lastly, remember that love requires action. If you see a pretty woman that you’d like to ask out then do! If she says no, that’s all that will happen. You won’t die. It’ll be okay. If you’re a woman and you find yourself avoiding men then stop! You must be with them if you’re going to find one.

Don’t hold back. Let yourself loose. Play.

Then you’ll find love.

You shouldn’t be searching for sexless relationship signs right now…

If you’re reading this page, then you might be in fear of being in a sexless relationship or having your relationship devolve into one.  This is a valid fear.  A sexless relationship can ruin your life and make you feel trapped.  If you are the one that does not want to have sex, then it might be a sign of much deeper problems that you’ll have to deal with before you can move on with your relationship.  If you are searching for signs of a sexless relationship, here are a few to look at.

Do you avoid having sex?  Do you know when your partner gets in the mood, or what signs your partner gives that they want to make love?  Do you try and disappear when this happens?  I knew of one couple where the woman didn’t want to make love.  She’d be “busy” on date nights or always use excuses, like a lot of paperwork or visiting an in-law to try and get out of sex with her boyfriend.  Their relationship ended before too long.

How often do you and your partner make love?  It’s normal for couples in love to spend a good deal of time flirting or making love.  If you are only making love once a month, then that’s a huge red flag that you’re in a sexless relationship and you need to do something at once to break the pattern.

Another big sign of being in a sexless relationship is the feeling that your relationship with your partner is mechanical.  You get up, you pay the bills, you go to work, you take the kids to school, but there’s no spark or romance in your life.  You feel more and more distant from your partner because you don’t spend any time discussing intimate subjects.

If you’re still searching for signs of a sexless relationship, then these are sure fire examples of what goes on in a sexless relationship.  Now that you know, there’s a lot of things you can do to get ahead of the problem.  I have written plenty of extensive articles on how to repair a marriage and build it from the bottom up.

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Can sexless relationship therapy really work?  Can it repair a loveless relationship?

Sexless relationships occur when one partner is dissatisfied with the amount of sex happening in the relationship. Usually in these cases, the sex drive of each partner is mismatched, where one partner wants to make love with far greater frequency than the other. There is natural variation in the human sex drive, so it’s highly possible that you can connect with your partner on a number of levels, but in terms of the bedroom, you two can be polar opposites.

In other cases, though, some couples simply lose interest in having sex. Many married couples go for years without having sex, but it’s only recently that this problem is being talked about in the open. Why are there sexless relationships, and does sexless relationship therapy really work? There are ways to deal with a passionless marriage, because a sexless relationship can lead to divorce or separation. Couples who undergo sexless relationship therapy usually lead happier lives. But what type of therapy is best?

When looking through the many books on sexless relationship therapy, or when trying to choose a therapist, always remember that the best sexless relationship therapy is usually intensive and lasts awhile. 

Beware of any book that promises to magically bring romance back into your life, especially with little effort or superficial exercises.

Most of the time, sexless relationships are due to a past trauma in one partner’s life that had remained secret, or other deep, complex issues that cannot be dealt with in a single therapy session or a simple exercise. The longer it is you’ve gone without sex as a couple, the more intense therapy you’ll need. Marriage boot camps are excellent forms of therapy for severe cases, as you’ll spend hours with a trained therapist in a closed, intimate setting, where you will be able to talk at length about issues that may have been bothering you, but you were never conscious of. These camps are usually retreats and most couples who go to them rave about their efficacy.

Specialized Sexless Relationship Therapy

Tantric yoga is a great way to bring a spark back to a relationship and is an effective form of sexless relationship therapy. Tantric yoga focusses on getting the person to be in tune with the energy of their body, especially sexual energy, and teaches people how to heighten their sensory perception. Couples who do tantric yoga together report that their intimacy increases many fold after a few sessions, and find that it’s easier to initiate love making once they reconnect with their spouse. Check your local yellow pages to see if there is a tantric instructor in your city. Even if you have to make a long trip, it’s quite worth it.

Sexless relationship therapy is designed to rebuild intimacy and help you and your partner reconnect and make you remember earlier parts of the relationship when there was still passion and fire. Any therapy worth its salt will not be easy, but the rewards will last a lifetime.

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If you find yourself in a sexless relationship, don’t panic. You are not alone.

A sexless relationship is really stressful and I have seen it ruin lives and leave people feeling empty inside.  Sex is such a vital part of a healthy relationship and building intimacy with your partner is so important that when your relationship becomes sexless, it feels as if your partner has betrayed an unspoken trust between the two of you.  If you find yourself in the midst of a sexless relationship, here is how you can survive it.

You are not going to last long without sex.  Some people have relationships with people who are really asexual, and they love their partner, but end up having to find sex elsewhere.  I have never liked these relationships.  I understand they feel a bond with their partner, but the fact they go elsewhere for sex is what makes it seem as if the relationship is more of a friendship than anything else.  You might think it’s okay to go looking for sex with someone to take care of your needs, but this is a mistake.

Do not commit adultery or cheat.  This is the worst mistake you can make.  Think about it: how can you rebuild your old relationship if you are cheating and your partner finds out?  If you really want to start a new relationship, why not cleanly cut off the old one before moving forward?  You must always be fair to yourself and fair to your partner.  If they find out about your cheating, then your relationship is over.

You’ll have to deal with the relationship problems head on if you are not already planning to separate.  You’ll have to rebuild intimacy, and you’ll have to figure out how you can reconnect with your partner.  If you are dedicated to the idea of rehabilitating your relationship, then you’ll do whatever it takes.  You’ll take time off work, you’ll set aside time during the week, and you might even invest in a clinical psychologist to look into your relationship problems.

No one can really go on with life surviving a sexless relationship.  Sex is a cornerstone of a relationship; without it, the boat sinks.  You cannot just ignore the problem either.  You’re only human, and you need intimacy and the comfort of your partner’s body.  You’ll be depressed and angry without it.  Don’t fight it.  Come up with a plan!  Read through this website to try and develop one, and you’ll come out alright.

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When people write to me about a sexless loveless marriage, they usually feel hurt and confused. Many are hopeless. They don’t believe that they can change their situation. Thankfully, you can. You just have to be willing to try.

Don’t despair!  There is a way out, and I’ve helped couples rekindle the passion in their marriage and look at life with brand new eyes.

With a sexless loveless marriage, you may need to do things that you wouldn’t have ever considered before.

First off, you need to evaluate why it is you are not having sex.  Is your sex drive low, or is it your partner’s?  This is a key question.  Do you feel like your spouse is holding sex over you?  Do you start having the wandering eye and feel bad about it?  Here are some things to think about when solving the problem of a sexless, loveless marriage.

Evaluate Your Schedule.

So many times it is the schedule of your lives that it causing the problems. Work, school, children’s activities, it’s all too much. All of these obligations can keep married partners so busy that they are either too tired or too stressed to find time for sex.

Consider finding a new hobby that the two of you can do together or revisit an old hobby. one couple that i know decided to take up rock-climbing. It was physical and adventurous, and they would go rock climbing in romantic locales.  Doing something physical also builds attraction.

With rock climbing, you must work as a team. One person stands below while the other one climbs up, and then you switch. Maybe the rock wall could represent the sexless loveless marriage. You can accomplish something together as a couple.

So many times couples are unwilling to give this situation the time it deserves. It takes time, that’s just being realistic.  You must be realistic.

Couple’s activities are good, and so is cuddling time!  You have to remember how to be physically intimate with one another.  Spend some time cuddling and talking with one another.  Trust is easy to lose, but hard to rebuild.

So remember: Be supportive of your spouse, and take all the time you need to rebuild your relationship.  Work out your schedule, and try to rebuild the physical intimacy you’ve lost.

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