Realize that couples fighting can actually be healthy. It’s all about how you look at your relationship.
It is actually possible to have a relationship where you never fight, but most healthy relationships have disagreements.
There’s nothing wrong with having a fight with your significant other. You must always be assertive. Assertiveness doesn’t mean being rude or being violent, it just means sticking up for yourself and what you feel. It’s a sign of self respect.
Some couples do fight an inordinate amount, and if you feel you fall into that category, then there are a few things you could try.
If you find yourself arguing a LOT with your significant other, then it may be a sign that you two are just not compatible. This happens to a lot of couples where very little holds them together outside of attraction. Remember, you are in the relationship to help you grow. If it begins to get unbearable, it’s not a bad idea to look elsewhere.
If you feel like your relationship is worth saving, then there is a reason you feel that way.
You might be thinking that there are people out there who don’t experience couples fighting. That’s not really true, people are good at putting on airs for others while fighting when the doors are closed.
Realizing that no relationship is perfect will actually calm you down.
The thing you need to know is that couples that don’t fight, often are very good at expressing their views. They can communicate. One thing about couples fighting is that it is very draining.
Couples that don’t fight think about the other person. They share empathy, they’re not looking to insult or condemn, to put too much pressure on the other or get the other to judge. These couples don’t waste energy on things that don’t matter in the long run.
It seems in some relationships that maybe one or both people actually enjoy fighting. How do these couples work?
Perhaps their life is such that they lack enough drama in their life because they’re not chasing their goals enough, that they need the relationship to get their daily fill of drama.
So couples that are often successful in their relationships realize that what’s happening outside their relationships is also important. They know what they’re doing with their time and energy. This plays a very big part on what’s happening inside the relationship. You can emulate this.
For example, one of the biggest toxic effects on relationships is having a lot of stress in your life.
So if you’re experiencing a lot of stress in your life, maybe at work, maybe in other areas, this is naturally going to flow into your relationship and negatively affect it. Be conscious of how this affects your relationships.
Think about the bigger picture, realize there’s no point being right if you’re unhappy.
So improve your communication skills, your listening skills, talk softly when you need to, ask for specifics and make sure you can always find some common ground with your partner, even when you are dealing with something that seems unresolvable.
Make sure you often agree to disagree or you can let your partner have a bit of a win. It’s not really about winning or losing.
Know when it’s worth investing a lot of time and energy into something and know when your ego is just getting in the way. More often than not, it’s not a big deal at all.
The more you can keep your big picture focus, the less you’re going to have to deal with relationship fighting.
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