One of the most difficult aspects of planning a marriage can be dealing with the family. Your mother would like to invite every member of her card club and your father wants to invite his friends from the office. You don’t know any of these people…and you wanted a small wedding. What to do?
It is your wedding. Always remember this. In the end, the final decisions should be made by you and your future spouse. You are the ones who are making this decision to spend the rest of your lives together.
That said, your parents and other family members may have valuable advice. They have been to weddings or been in their own. This results in life experience that may be more valuable than you thought. Anyone who has planned a wedding before will have tips for you on wear to find a dress, how much to spend on the cake, and who should take the photos. Listen to their advice and then make your decision.
When others feel hurt because you decided to go in another direction with your wedding choices, let them know why you chose what you chose. You don’t owe them an explanation, but sometimes just saying, “I chose to go with purple flowers because that’s Evan’s favorite color and I think that kind of rich, deep purple will look great in the month of November.” It helps to let them know why you made your choice so that they can see it was personal to you and didn’t have anything to do with them. In other words, you didn’t hate their idea and you don’t hate them, you just have a different choice that is more YOU.