If you are dealing with a bad marriage it could really be the most stressful period of your life.
Does it feel like the honeymoon is over? Newlyweds experience that period where the glow of getting married has gone away, and the ho-hum of everyday life begins to set in. With marriages gone bad, it probably feels like you’re in a jail you can never escape from. This is not the case, and now is not the time to lose faith in the reasons why you married your spouse. Those feelings were real, and a bad patch is not going to change that.
Saving a bad marriage involves finding out why it is you two decided to get married in the first place. It’s time to revisit those old feelings so that you can feel them anew. You can rekindle the feeling of being newlyweds. It’s not impossible. Here are some tips you can follow to do that:
Go on dates
One big mistake married couples often make is that they stop going out on dates. What a way to ruin a romance! Dating is fun and keeps the game alive. Sure, you’re married, and you’re no longer in the market for a new partner. That doesn’t mean you should stop valuing the romance you share with your spouse. Go out on dates again. Surprise each other.
Marriage should be the start of a new adventure. At no point should it ever feel like that adventure ever died away. Sure, life might be more routine now. You get up, go to work, hang out with friends within reason while trying to raise a family. That’s the stability and beauty that marriage brings. However, take some time to break from that paradigm and romance each other.
It’s easy to find activities that suffice for a date. Go ballroom or salsa dancing and dress up when you do! Remind each other that you still find each other desirable and sexy. It’s just that easy. For one married couple who wanted to know how to save a bad marriage, I told them they needed to drop their jobs for a week and go to Paris, the city of Lights. They came back, and were brand new!
Do not let problems fester. This is the first step for marriage disaster. You let things fester when you’re not honest with your spouse. I understand why people do this. They feel if they were to just openly say what they felt, that they might insult or their spouse. The opposite actually happens. Not being honest is, in a way, is lying to your spouse, which can run a relationship.
Being honest also means that finding solutions to problems will be easy. You can’t fix a problem if you don’t know it’s there. If your job is stressing you, let it out. If your partner does something that really annoys you, then simply say it. Now is the time for honesty the likes of which you’ve never experienced.
These are just some things you can do to save a bad marriage. It will probably take weeks of concerted effort on your part. This is not a bad thing. Marriage is a process, and learning to deal with the bad parts actually makes the good parts that much better.
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