Dealing with a sexless husband is very difficult for any wife. The best thing to do is take action.
What do you do if your husband doesn’t want to have sex?
First off, if you find yourself in this position, then you are not alone. There are many couples across the world who are stuck in sexless marriages. Some estimates put the percentage at 15% in the United States, but no one can ever know the true number. It can occur at any point in life, and doesn’t necessarily happen to just elderly couples.
This happens to many couples, so don’t feel afraid!
Many relationships begin where both partners are passionate for each other and both people felt an unquenchable flame for each other, only to have that flame fizzle out for some unknown reason. Sexless relationships are relationships where sex is either non-existent or infrequent to the point that one partner is dissatisfied and frustrated.
Why does my husband not want to have sex?
There are a variety of reasons for why your husband just doesn’t want to make love. If you are serious about tackling the problem, you need to carefully consider your options and understand the problem. Try not to blame your husband or become angry, as strife between you and he will only exacerbate the situation.
Your husband should get a physical checkup to be sure he isn’t suffering from impotence. This is a sensitive subject with men, but it does need to be brought up. Impotence can happen to males of all ages, and poor physical fitness is a huge contributing factor, but not the only factor. If he has erectile dysfunction or a hormonal imbalance, then your physician should be able to prescribe something. He’ll feel more confident in the bedroom, and your sex life will change. Don’t be afraid to bring this subject up with him, because the sooner you deal with it, the better.
If your husband is in good physical health, but doesn’t want to make love, then he might have a much deeper psychological problem you’ll have to deal with. Some men may have intimacy issues that developed from abuse in an earlier relationship or perhaps when they were children. Feelings of rejection and pain can lie beneath the surface for years, only to emerge during times of intimacy. If this is the case, your husband may not even be aware of what is holding him back or what is killing his desire for you. In this case, a trained therapist would be needed to get to the root of the problem, and help your husband become consciously aware of what it is that is destroying his libido.
You will need patience and understanding for this difficult period, but in many cases, couples learn more about themselves and each other, and the intimacy intensifies. Removing the mental blocks from love making helps both partners to realize what they loved about each other in the first place, and can lead to stronger, longer lasting relationships.