The Search for Love is Overwhelming

The Search for Love is Overwhelming

When the search for love is overwhelming, it’s nice to know that you can find love without trying so much. If you’ve been actively pursuing love, but haven’t found anything. Don’t worry.

The love that I’ve seen others find usually comes when they least expect it. It may be that you’re trying TOO hard. Be open. Be available. Don’t be in a constant, frenzied search for that perfect “someone.” He or she may not exist. Try the less perfect. And if you still can’t find anyone, relax. There is time.

Despite what the media tries to tell us, love does exist and can be found at 30, 40, 50 or even 70 years of age. You don’t need to find it at 16. Or 25. Let that notion go. It does nothing but add anxiety and stress.

Sometimes it’s good to remember to take a break to rejuvenate yourself. All of that “searching” ‘can be exhausting and it can wreak havoc on your health. One of my friends recently went through this kind of dating exhaustion. “Why aren’t there any good girls,” he asked me. I asked him where he was looking and his response, “Well, I go to a bar every night.” A bar. This guy was looking for a really decent girl who shared his religious beliefs and love for kayaking and he was looking in a bar! He should be looking at church services. He should be looking church events. He should be looking at kayaking clubs. Sometimes the search can be overwhelming because you’re setting yourself up for failure.

If you’re just looking for a fun fling, then it doesn’t matter where you look. If you’re looking for love, then you need to go deeper than a mere bar. You need to give yourself a real chance at finding someone with whom you’re compatible.