The Value of Spontaneity

The Value of Spontaneity

You’ve probably heard about the importance of keeping your relationship young, fresh, and full of spontaneity. Like always, the most difficult part is to incorporate these ideas into your relationship.

All relationships, not just romantic relationships, benefit from a bit of spontaneity.

Many couples find that when they begin to lose their spark they begin to drift apart. This doesn’t have to be the case. The couples who stay together are the couples who are still able to surprise each other and who enjoy doing random, fun, new things together. I often think that this is why young love is often considered so romantic. It’s this kind of spontaneity that happens as you begin to know someone and fall in love with them.

To keep the fun alive in your relationship, try doing spontaneous activities. If surprises aren’t your partner’s favorite thing, then don’t make it a surprise. You can plan to do something random. What happens if you decide to get on ticketmaster and purchase great seats to the next orchestra, performance, comic, etc. Doing something like this can keep the surprise away, while keeping all of the spontaneity alive.

Try new things. Dance in the rain. Run around outside in bare feet. Try to awaken the child in both of you. I’m not asking you to be childish, just to be child-like. You’ll find that you both haven’t done a multitude of things in your lives. So go out and do them. You don’t have to do something every day, but shoot for every two weeks or every month. Make time for fun and your relationship will be more likely to last.