Ways to Stop Divorce – Try a Catholic Approach

Ways to Stop Divorce – Try a Catholic Approach

If you’re Catholic and are seriously considering getting a divorce, then this is a truly harrowing period in your life.

The Catholic Church does not allow divorce, as the teachings of the Catholic Church state that once you are married, you and your spouse are one flesh.  The scriptural basis for this is, “Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate,” (Mark 10:9).   You can get a civil divorce from the state, but as far as the church is concerned, you and your spouse are bound together for life.  If you are a religious Catholic looking for a way to get divorced, you must first consider whether or not your marriage is worth saving, and if not, then you must seek an annulment.  An annulment is the only Catholic way to separate from your spouse.

Always remember it is best not to make rash decisions.  Deciding whether or not to leave your spouse is an emotional time, and you do not want to do something you might later regret. 

Talk with your priest and people at your church to see if there is a marriage counselor you and your spouse can see.  Since divorce is explicitly against Catholic teaching, most parishes have marriage counselors and experts to help get you through this difficult period without letting the situation deteriorate further.  The Catholic way to stop a divorce would be to remind you and your spouse of your commitments and how your marriage is a blessing from God.  Reaffirming your faith in the teachings of Catholicism with respect to marriage, can be the perfect way to heal.  If you would prefer to keep your personal life out of the church, then there are specialists you can see for a fee that might go a long way towards healing your relationship.  This is very important to do, especially if you have children, because divorce can cleave families apart and leave lasting emotional scars.

In order to divorce your spouse, the Catholic way is to seek an annulment.

An annulment is a serious process where it will be decided whether or not your original marriage was a valid, sacramental marriage.  If your marriage was valid, then there is no way that you can be granted an annulment by your church.  The process for receiving an annulment takes one year, depending on the marriage tribunal in your local diocese.  The tribunal will review your marriage, and if one criterion of sacramental marriage is not met, then the marriage is null and void.  If not, you are still technically married to your spouse and cannot remarry.  Marrying someone else would count as adultery and would be a mortal sin.

For Catholics, there is life after divorce.

If you are divorced you may still be welcomed to Mass and might still be able to receive communion depending on your personal circumstance.  If you have not remarried and are not dating, then you could still be welcome in your church.  Many divorced Catholics fear the stigma that being divorced places on them and feel uncomfortable interacting with other Catholics, but many say that the church is understanding, as there are many valid reasons to divorce someone, such as spousal abuse and substance abuse.