When he’s in your dreams, it can become a problem in terms of your productivity. Sure, it’s nice to be in that “honeymoon stage” and enjoy the “puppy love,” but it can cause problems at the office or at school.
The best way to keep those thoughts at bay, are to focus on three rules:
#1. I can dream about him at specific times.
Don’t try to shut him out of your mind completely. He won’t go! Whenever you try not to think about something, it only makes it worse. Acknowledge that you’re thinking about this guy, and then let it go. Set up specific times throughout the day where you allow yourself to have twenty minutes to think about him.
#2. Spend time with him
Don’t let all of your time be spent fantasizing about this guy. If he’s so great, go be with him!
#3. Keep the dreamy attitude to yourself.
It’s okay to let him know that you’ve been thinking about him. It’s great to let him know that you care about him. However, many girls go WAY overboard. Guys hate it when girls spend the first and last twenty minutes of every date talking about their mushy, sappy, love crush. I’m assuming that you haven’t been in the relationship for a long time, and puppy love may turn into true love, but it isn’t yet. So take this kind of talk and shove it. Focus on getting to know each other better, enjoying spending time together, and showing him that you care rather than telling him.
If you follow these three rules, you’ll be more productive at work or at school. You’ll also feel better about the time you do spend together.